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NC - yikes!
| Tue, 04-19-2005 - 11:10am |
What happens if NC is broken after 5 weeks?
Edited 4/19/2005 11:46 am ET ET by isadimple
Edited 4/19/2005 11:46 am ET ET by isadimple
| Tue, 04-19-2005 - 11:10am |
You recognize you're human and you made a mistake, you pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and you start NC again!!!
Sheri
Timing is perfect I suppose, as I leave for a week's vacation with close friends TONIGHT.
At least I wont have to sit at home and wonder what next because I'm totally going to be far away.
MEN! LOVE!! Its all so messy, unstable, rewarding, and just plain irrational.
uh, I never said we "made love", but we did and it was so great.
He and I are never getting back together. Between the conflicts that our friends have with our being together, and the conflicts my family has about us, and his immaturity, there is not even the chance.
As for FWB, that may be a possibility but at least this vacation time will be good for me to just think. I refuse to go backward. I have really gone forward and done well for me lately. For the past five weeks I've exercised (I'm training for a 10k race) and lost my "lazy weight". I look better than ever and feel that way for the most part.
It really was difficult, but to ALL YOU GIRLS WHO ARE DEVASTATED BY A BREAK UP, get up! Do something to challenge yourself JUST FOR THE SAKE OF DOING IT. It felt really good to have an activity and create a new pattern in my day. It kept me sane and empowered.
We did the FWB thing after our second breakup (of three) and it was exactly what you said it was, a whole big mess (for me). BUT, at the end of it we had a huge falling out and then got back together.
Love!!!!!!
No i was looking for any and all adice. I'm just rambling basically.
Truth be told - I had had a few drinks before contacting him.
And just this past week the charmer that he is, has started calling again out of nowhere, and even showed up at my house. He knows exactly the buttons to push with me, and well, here we are again. And I know that it means nothing and yet it is like a small fire spreading with thoughts of him again. Big sigh. Just wanted to share that, in case you could relate. I feel empowered slightly that he beckons again, but sad that it is only for booty. And I don't have delusional thoughts of love or him ever realizing just how fantastic I am, I just need to stick to my bottom line, that I deserve and want more than he could ever give me.
I'm glad you know what you want, and you are moving forward. Me too, be strong, and have fun.
Cheers
You sound EXACTLY like me, even down to the "cheers" at the end of your posts (i do that too).
I know exactly how it feels to be in the delusional FWB stage of the game. That was how I was from November all the way to March . He can be a little delusional about reality and I get over-excited.
Thank goodness for this trip because I really need time to think without the possibility of crashing into him. I want to see him, but I need to keep remembering I'm doing well and I'd just be putting myself into an unhealthy and dysfunctional situation. Its so crazy how the "love" can cloud such important signs of why it doesn't work!
If you truly truly want him gone then DONT feed his ego at ALL by responding IN ANY WAY to his absurd gestures. Ex-loves are like cigarettes - you enjoy them, know its bad for you but it feels so good and you just have to have ONE MORE TIME!!!!
Good luck and CHEERS to us both?!?