Nearly two months...still sad :(
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| Sun, 01-13-2008 - 4:13am |
Hello everyone,
Just wanted to update. It's been nearly two months now and while things are definitely better (I'm crying less frequently, probably once a week) and I'm not nearly as preoccupied with thinking about him.
I guess I'm just surprised he's still as on my mind as he is. Everyone seemed to imply that I would barely be thinking about him in two months. I realize that there is no forcing it and I just have to keep riding it out and living my life. I just feel so sad and helpless, especially at night. I also get the feeling that most of my friends are sick of hearing about it, so I haven't really talked to anyone about it for a while.
Also, I still really miss talking to him. I finally blocked his emails about 2 weeks ago (I never returned any but I was still reading them). I have not spoken to him/returned any contact since the beginning. Some of the emails he sent me before I blocked him were incredibly cruel and hurtful and I wish I hadn't read them.
Yuck. I am just rambling. I guess I'm lonely. I wish I could start to think about dating but the thought of other men does not appeal to me at all.
thanks for listening. :)

Hey there, well, unless you were together for a very short time, 2 months really isn't that long into the grieving process--enough for the initial shock to wear off but not enough time to have reached acceptance.
Hi Sheri,
Thanks for responding. To answer your question, we were together for one year. You're right, I guess it isn't that long. I think maybe it feels like it's been a lot longer than two months so that's what made me think it should be getting significantly better.
I will try and talk to some of my friends this week. Them being sick of it probably is mostly in my head....sigh. Asking for help is not easy for me, especially on an ongoing basis.
Thanks again. Oh and yes, I have deleted his emails, deleted his number from my phone, sent back his stuff. The only things I still have of his are a few pictures and some jewelry that he gave me, but I put it all in a duffel bag and stashed it in the garage so it is out of sight.
guess I just need to keep being patient....
:)
Rachel
Ok, in that case you might not be completely over him for a good six months.
Sheri!
Great words of advice.
I needed to hear that myself.
roo1983, I agree with sheri, that two months is not enough time to be totally over a relationship that meant something.
Everyone grieves differently as well. My friend and I both had break-ups at the same time.
She is already dating someone new and is dealing with her feelings in a different way.
For me, it has only been a little over a month, I can't even THINK of someone else, but instead find myself trying to get a handle, accept that I did what I could, stick to a strict NC and am working on rebuilding my self esteem.
Sounds like you are doing pretty great job, so I wouldn't worry about it.
And talk to your friends about how you feel, because they should understand that you still need to talk and vent and share.
I just force my friends :) to listen to me, because I've been there for them and now I need them.
Good luck!