Need advice

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Registered: 05-10-2007
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Thu, 05-17-2007 - 9:52am

Ater all the trouble I went through yesterday to keep from calling my ex when I lost my keys (see post titled Close Call) I ended up calling him anyway.

The story goes like this... Boy vs Pocket knife, pocket knife wins. He was really bleeding, deep cut, clean but very deep. I couldn't get the bleeding to stop. At 14
he's never been to the ER and wasn't about to go now. I talked him into going to the urgent treatment center up the road. He agreed. So we get there and the place is closed. He's still bleeding heavily and begging not to go to the ER. I've lived here almost 5 years but still only know my part of the city. I have no idea where another UTC is. I start driving to the hospital. He's begging. I picked up my cell and started to call 411 to get the location and realized I wouldn't know how to get there even if they gave me the address and I didn't have that kind of time. So I broke down and called the ex. No answer at home, none on the cell, son still begging, I try again, no answer. I take my son to the hospital.

When we got home I had a message from the ex. I hadn't left a message for him on his cell, but did leave one on his home phone that had to have sounded a little panicked. Last night I decided to email him to explain, which I did briefly, told him my son was fine, sorry to bother him, thanks for returning my call. Didn't sign it, wasn't chatty, just a polite note with a few facts. We're very southern and it would have been considered rude not to. Its just what you do. He knows that and also knows a response was not required.

This morning he called. Then I get this email... Copied below:

Ouch!

Thanks for the update….sorry about that.

For the record, I don’t know where the Urgent Care place is.

The meeting with ***** went as expected. However, there are real signs of movement (right!) and thus there were discussions of some upcoming activity. Don’t know if you’d have any interest, but I recommended you. I also said there would need to be some money in advance. Would be happy to discuss it with you, if you are interested

Am also still very curious and concerned about (snipped stuff about son's school) Please let me know.

Thanks,

*****

End copy

The kicker here is that a business project we worked very hard on for a couple of years hit a road block and stalled out about a year ago. Now it looks like there may be some end to the snags. I knew about the meeting before we broke up. I offered to help but he was indifferent. It is a terrific opportunity for him, just what he needs and I genuinely hope he can get it going again. It would also be a great opportunity for me, one to get out of the horrible job that was one of the reasons for the breakup and two it would be a great way to make some extra money. I worked very hard to get this going. Getting this business going was one of "our" things, we were going to work together, take long lunches, work some more, spend our days together. Did I mention that his office is in his house? I have a desk in his office, about two feet from his.

Do I bite here?

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: asutherngrl
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 12:09pm

Hi asutherngrl,


How long would the project be and could you do it without letting your emotions get the best of you?




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In reply to: asutherngrl
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 12:37pm
If handled properly this could be a full time, long term gig, although it could take some time to get it going. I think I could do much of the work out of my home. For some reason the thought of him doing this without me is annoying me more than the thought of him and that other woman.
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In reply to: asutherngrl
Thu, 05-17-2007 - 5:15pm

I discussed this with a friend who knows the history of both the project and the relationship. She agreed with me that it would be a shame to let it go, particularly since I can do most of the work from my home with minimal contact. This is a music industry related project and there are estate issues the family has been trying to resolve for years. So, I sent via email the following response...

Quote: "Thank you for thinking of me. Give me a call when the (insert family name here) are ready to get started."

I've known these folks a while. I consider them to be friends. They've been dragging their feet for 3 years. I may never have to talk to the ex.

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Registered: 02-09-2006
In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:28pm

NO, don't bite. Biting hurts...remember that.

What exactly happened with your son and the knife? Was it intentional or an accident? Either way...I'm glad that he is doing okay...

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Registered: 02-09-2006
In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:31pm
I saw no post title Close Call from you....fyi
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In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:42pm
My son was just jerking around with it, even though he has been told not to,
and it snapped closed shoving the blade into his finger. He's lucky the blade
was nice and sharp. The cut was very clean and easily stitched. But boy was
he bleeding! I am not one of those mom's that panic, but this got me.
Fingers are very vascular.
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In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:44pm
Its under Healing
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In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:50pm
can you cut & past the 'close call' post that you wrote? I can't find it anywhere on the board....
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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 4:51pm

Here it is:


Close Call

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In reply to: asutherngrl
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 4:53pm
Thank you cl-itwinflame. :-)