in need of advice

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
in need of advice
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Mon, 02-26-2007 - 1:39pm
last time i wrote you all helped me alot and i just want to thank you all.
well here i go again i hope you can all give me some advice.
me and my ex broke up about two weekes ago and i was doing ok kepping myself busy so i wouldnt have time to think about him. but last night he called me i did not answer i just let it go straight to voicemail he left me a message but i have not listen to it.just that little thing of letting the call go to voice mail was hard for me i kept making excuses in order for me to call him but in the end i knew i would only be hurting myself. his just making it harder for me to get over him and move on. today when i woke up my friend told me he came by to look for me but she said i was at school so he left a letter and thats what im wondering about should i read it? im scared that if i do read it i might go back to him and we will have the same problems we had.
hes the type of guy that says exactly what you wanna hear.i dont know what to do i do miss him and all the great times we had together. but i dont know if im ready to let him back in we just broke up about two weeks ago so im not sure about anyhting right now!
any advice?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 5:35pm

Hi liseth,


Here's a link to your previous post for those that haven't been following your story:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rlbreaking/?msg=22197.1


::what im wondering about should i read it? im scared that if i do read it i might go back to him and we will have the same problems we had.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-11-2007
Mon, 02-26-2007 - 6:57pm
Hi there. How long did you and your boyfriend date? Did you break up with him or did he break up with you? It is weird sometimes how they "come back". My boyfriend broke up with me last Wednesday night (on the phone)and I have not heard anything from him..until today..he instant messaged me at work to ask how I was..and he asked all kinds of questions about a race i ran on Saturday. I know how you feel about the contact...I am scared I wont be able to move on if he still keeps contacting me..but I want him to contact me because I miss him so much. I dont know if his IMs were a gesture to "just be friends" or what...
I just dont get it.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-20-2007
Tue, 02-27-2007 - 9:47pm

hey thanks for taking some time to read my post.
to answer your questions i was with my ex for about a year and a half and for the first year we were good we were always so happy it didnt matter what we did we were always having fun. the last six months were kinda ups and downs but i just thought every relationship goes throu this so we can just grow stronger from them.but he just gave up he decided to end the relationship. the first few days i wasnt doing to good but so for the past week and a half i was good just doing anything to keep busy and have no time to think about him. i have not read the letter or heard the message so far i think i just need time he called me this morning again but i just cant talk to him yet i know that if i do i might say or do something i might later regret. i just cant get over the fact that he didnt even try to make us work he just gave up.