Need Advice

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Need Advice
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Sun, 09-12-2004 - 12:46pm
I know this may seem Childish and immature to most people but I feel like i need a little adivce on my situation. You probably remember my post from a few days ago, I left my boyfriend of almost 3 years because I wasnt important in his life. Well he came over to get his things and we talked, things were very honest and I believe what he told me and I dont believe there are any alerior motives to hurt me or anything like that. But what he said to me hurt a great deal. He told me that he knows he was doing what I said he was, putting most everything ahead of me. He said he didnt know why he was doing it, why he would rather be other places and put other things ahead of me. But he said that that shows him that it isnt right, he said however that I need to give it time. You see we have a lot of past under the bridge. We both hurt each ohther a lot in one way or another and we never gave that time to heal we just tried to get back together and forget it all..well that didnt work to great. I am wondering if it is possible that we can start over again one day once we have given each other time to heal and had time to get to know ourselves again and distance ourselves from what was our past relationship. Can the feelings that we had for each other before ever come back or at least something similar to that? Or is this just false hope that i should discard?
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Registered: 04-27-2004
Mon, 09-13-2004 - 1:29am
I think that you shouldn't wait for him. He's got too many other things he's worrying about and you said you two have had a lot of problems, so he probably won't be ready to be with you anytime soon. You can't expect yourself to wait around for him when you might be waiting forever for something that isn't guaranteed anyway. I think you have to let it go and let whatever happens, happen.