Need Advice

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Need Advice
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Thu, 11-01-2007 - 9:15am

Its been about a week of no contact with my ex boyfriend until yesterday, when we spoke but it was completely business. We were just trying to figure out our cellphone situation since we are still in the same plan. Then later in the evening he called me 10 times. i didn't pick up my phone. I was too scared of hearing his voice, when we had spoke earlier in the day it was thru email. This morning he was waiting at my parking spot. He asked me why didn't pick up my phone. I told him i was busy and didn't check my phone. He told me he missed me and wanted to talk about certain things he needs to get off his chest, he invited me to lunch. I said i'll email him if i decide to meet up with him. I don't know what to do.


Help!

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-19-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 9:28am

Hi, Alexis. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Do you want to meet up with him?

Claudia

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Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 9:36am
Yes, I do. But i feel like it would be taking a step back from me trying to get over him. But at the same time i want to hear what he gots to say. I'm just confused.
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Registered: 07-17-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 11:01am

Alexis, hi there!

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Thu, 11-01-2007 - 12:44pm

Hi Alexis,


Here's your previous post: Is it wrong to have hope?


Maybe he wants to be more than 'just friends' now?

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Registered: 07-14-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 1:47am

offhand, I'd probably not go personally. If someone had broke up with me that way (and a finace no less), unless he was figuratively begging for my forgiveness with the works in my parking spot.

I'm going to be blunt (because i'm falling asleep, sorry), but if you're going into this meeting with any hope that he's going to fall to his knees in grief, you'd better kill it quick. If he was serious about getting back together, he'd have said it at the parking spot or he'll say it when you fail to email him.

Look at it this way. Worse case scenario, you go into the meeting hoping he'll repent. He tells you that he's moved on and he's dating another girl whom he's madly in love with. You go home to cry alone. Or you show up and he basically wants this meeting to be an egostroke where he wants to know that you don't hate him for the less than stellar way he broke up with you. You leave disappointed. Why do this to yourself?

anyways, all the best

- There comes a point in your life when you realize who matters, who never did, who won't anymore, and who always will. So don't worry about people from your
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Registered: 10-24-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 8:54am

Well I did decided to go to the lunch. It wasn't bad and it wasn't good. He basically told me he loved and really misses me and really wish we could be back together but we both have things to work on, which is true, we both have a lot of issues need to be fixed before we can get together again. We both said our good byes and were both got teary eye. It was really hard but it felt like closure.We decided

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:25am

So lunch was for him to say everything he wanted to say, to apologize to make himself feel better, so you wont' be upset and/or hate him?


I'm glad you feel it was closure.






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Registered: 08-02-2007
In reply to: alexis723
Fri, 11-02-2007 - 10:30am
Good for you Alexis...work on you and whatever will happen will happen.

Hugs,

 

Dbest