need advice on breaking up

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Registered: 08-11-2005
need advice on breaking up
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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:47pm

Hi everyone! I'm new here and I saw some posts kinda similar to my situation so I figured I'd give it a shot here. Truth is, I'm hopeless! I met my bf 7 years ago when I was in college. We clicked right away and before I knew it I was spending more time at his place then my dorm room. Our relationship developed very quickly... I met his family and became really close to his mom and sister. Well, 7 years later I find myself not being attracted to him anymore. I'm 26 and he's 30. He works lonf hours and we don't spend much time together as we used to and when we are together it's just not the same! I talked to him about it a few times and we tried to work things out but I'm just at a point where I have to make a decision on whether or not I want to invest any more time into this relationship. He's a great guy, he takes care of me financially, he tries to be there for me emotionally, he's very much in love with me still but I'm not in love with him anymore...I love him very much and I want to make this break up as easy as possible for both of us but after being together for so long I don't know If I could function without him and vice versa. He was my first love and he's been my shield and shelter and my everything! I'm just so freaking confused! I don't know what to do...I don't even know where to start! I do have a place I can move to and I was thinking about packing up my stuff and moving it into my new place while he's at work and waiting for him at home so I can explain...I know that would be cold but it would be worse if I told him about it and he had to sit there watching me pack...
Anyhow, I was just wondering if any of you have had to break up with anyone? How long were you together, how did you break up and how did you re-adjust without that person?

Thank you!

Lecy

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Registered: 01-31-2006
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 2:14pm

hi leticia

why dont you talk to him tell him honestly what your situation now...or maybe tell him you want space and try to figure out what YOU REALLY WANT!

coz maybe if you break up with him right a way you might regret it later!

coz for my own opinion you wont know the value of the person if you dont lose them yet.
you too young when you guys start dating so i'm assuming that you still want to explore and experience more in relationship.. GIRL YOU ARE IN A GOOD SITUATION NOW WHAT ELSE ARE YOU LOOKING FOR...WELL I GUESS ITS TOO BORING FOR YOU HAH? I KNOW THAT FEELINGS I BEEN THERE....BUT LOOK I BEEN WANTING A CHALLENGING RELATIONSHIP....NOW I'M SOO TIRED OF IT!
BUT WHAT CAN I DO I ASK FOR THIS...

GOOD LUCK