Need Advice - Do I tell him I know?

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Registered: 03-03-2007
Need Advice - Do I tell him I know?
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Tue, 06-19-2007 - 12:36pm

I just found out something that has floored me! The ex and I have been split up for almost 7 months and I have been doing quite well until I saw him this weekend when I saw him with a girlfriend that I didn't know he had. It shocked me since I was given the reason that he left me as being too busy for a relationship (after being together 7 years) his job was too much, his business was failing, his father just died, his mom was sick, etc. All I ever heard was that the last 2 months of our relationship were horrible, this was while he was traveling back and forth to PA because his dad was sick and dying and I was taking care of his 2 girls, being the rock at home holding everything together so he didn't have to worry about anything, drove his kids 10 hours to the funeral and back in a snowstorm, being there for his family in PA.

Anyway, I just found out when I asked my son if he knew that the ex had a girlfriend (since he's in the same high school as the ex's daughter) and found out that he's known for many months but didn't want to hurt me so didn't say. Now I know that he started a relationship before he was out of the one with me. I never suspected, which is really stupid on my part, but so many things make so much sense now!!! I'm shocked but feel so much like I want to let him know that I know. Should I let him know? Is it just an overwhelming feeling that I need to let him know that will pass? Does it matter if I let him know or is it just because I feel so stupid? Need some advice really badly!!!! I'm wondering if this will make it easier for me to move on now that I know that there was nothing I could have done to save us. I always thought that if I had called him we would have gotten back together. Now I know I didn't stand a chance. What should I do??????

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 06-19-2007 - 12:48pm

Nothing.

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