Need advice, ex is give mixed signal
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Need advice, ex is give mixed signal
| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 6:22pm |
my boyfriend and i broke up on sunday, he tells me he still loves me but we do need to take some time apart, for us to think about things, where we heading with life, and how important we are to each other. I talked to him today and he told me that he needs at least a month to think about things, then maybe we can get back together. I know he loves me and i know that the reason we broke up was because we argued a lot. We argued about little things, his inconsideration of my feelings, i would get mad at him a lot. I realized that but i guess it's too late. I told him i'm willing to change if he's willing to change with me, it takes two to tango, so it's gonna take two of us to fix things. He says he doesn't believe me. I told him that i don't want to lose him, he told me that he's not looking to be with any other women. That i have to trust him, that's not my concern, well it is but what i meant was losing him period. He told me i just have to give him some space, let him have the time he asked for so he can figure things out. What should i do? i need some advice, do you think he's really sincere that he just want some time to figure things out and there really is noone else? i know that i'm going to have to respect the fact that he needs some space, should i wait? i love him deeply and my heart aches everytime i think about not being with him. Please some advice!

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I guess this time i really do have to give up on him and trust me he broke up with me almost a month ago and im still here weeping and feeling like you said a wreck without him, I love him very much, but i guess i have to learn how to survive without him :'(. I guess the reason why dont guys want to come up and tell you right in your face its because they know if they do they might end up hurting us and hurting themselves see us cry and weep over them. But yea its sad what happened to me, im just glad that at least you guys set up a date and for sure you guys are meeting. Maybe he is just confused about life, maybe right your guy is just trying to decide what he wants for his life and also wants to probably discover if he can live without you. Most of the times guys do this in order to find if they can live with or without you. Just like all of my friends said just chill for now, expect the worst, and pray for him and wait until june the first, give him his space and time. Wish you the Best, and lots of hugs!!!!!
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I m in the same boat n fully understand how u feel... My ex asked for time off (from April till Sept) n asked me to wait for him. He also promised that he will let me know should there be someone new come along the way. He said no one can replace me n he loved n miss me. He said he will keep me posted whenever he can.
Initially he did and I thought we are still together and we are 'working' separately to work out the problems that we need to fix. I tried very hard not to call him (but i cant help it but did call n not once did he answer or return my calls). But he would send me text message once a while telling me to hang on n he loved me. It was about a month ago since I last heard from him via text message where he said he still loved me n missed me. He also said he's very stressed n need some time. I tried very hard not to call n I have to be honest... I did call every now n then n as usual i could not get a hold of him in any form. I tried text messaging, emailing....
Last weekend, I started to get worried for him. I tot something might happen to him and i also want to know what has happened n if he still loves me. So I finally called again n to my shocking, i found out that he has already moved on n found someone new! It was devastating n heartbroken! I m hurt, confuse n loss... I have been working very hard on the plans that we work on and i thought he is doing the same.. but i never expect its over for us. I m confused why didnt he tell me he already has someone new and asked me not to wait for him? Why did he not tell me in any form that we are over??
I did not give up. I want an answer from him so tat i know what to do next. I dun understand how could he told me he still loved me and yet to be with someone else. I dun believe he has completely forgotten about me/ us in such short period. I called n called n called .... i guessed i m sooooo annoying tat we finally settled things through instant messaging.... He finally told me he did not want to talk to me anymore, asked me to leave him alone, it over for us for good and asked me to moved on.
I asked for a 2nd chance (I loved him very very much!!!! n i know i have hurt him n let him down in the past n i am willing to do anything to change it n i want to be with him... still!!!!) but he said no... its too late. He said the girl makes him realize he has missed out a lot and the girl just loved him! (There were some misunderstanding between us.. he thought I have left him when he is in the bottom of his life when he has lost his job, totally broke n i wasnt there for him when he needed me most!! Me.. i was accmpanying my mom visiting her relatives in Asia when this happened but during the whole trip, i never stop thinking abt him n we have been communicating - but unfortunately we fought alot during tat time... n i only found out about his situation when i returned to canada in April... I should have gone over to see him - we stayed an hour apart. I still regretted it.. i still love him n miss him.... :( ).
I know there is no way that he is changing his mind on us... he has already moved on n found someone new... n me... still at where we left off... n i wasnt prepared for this ending.... i felt so lonely n i miss him so much!
I sent him an email after we last communicated. I thanked him for all that he has dun for me in the past n i wish him n the girl well. I told him i will always loved him n missed him. I also told him i will not 'disturb' him anymore but i also told him that should he need anything or if there is anything i can help him in the future, i will still he happy to help him even he said we are over for good now.
Beside letting him go, i dunno whatelse i can do... :( and i trufully want him to be happy n be well....
I m still trying to cope n get over this but reading all the advises others are giving u makes me feel better! I know i will not recovered now but eventually i will. And who knows one day he might miss me n want to be together again!? (but of course this day is slim to nothing...)
I have not called him for 2 days now n today is the 3rd day.... oh n the first thing i did after sending him the last email, i deleted his numbers from my contact list to prevent the convenient of calling him again...
The sky is still grey today for me but at least the raining has turned to dizzling... I believe one day the sun will come out soon...
Oh n i am not sure if anyone could give me some advise on how to motivate myself.... at times i just dun feel like doing anything... i feel tat i have lost everything n doing anything is meaningless.... :(
sad girl
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