Need advice, ex is give mixed signal
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Need advice, ex is give mixed signal
| Wed, 05-03-2006 - 6:22pm |
my boyfriend and i broke up on sunday, he tells me he still loves me but we do need to take some time apart, for us to think about things, where we heading with life, and how important we are to each other. I talked to him today and he told me that he needs at least a month to think about things, then maybe we can get back together. I know he loves me and i know that the reason we broke up was because we argued a lot. We argued about little things, his inconsideration of my feelings, i would get mad at him a lot. I realized that but i guess it's too late. I told him i'm willing to change if he's willing to change with me, it takes two to tango, so it's gonna take two of us to fix things. He says he doesn't believe me. I told him that i don't want to lose him, he told me that he's not looking to be with any other women. That i have to trust him, that's not my concern, well it is but what i meant was losing him period. He told me i just have to give him some space, let him have the time he asked for so he can figure things out. What should i do? i need some advice, do you think he's really sincere that he just want some time to figure things out and there really is noone else? i know that i'm going to have to respect the fact that he needs some space, should i wait? i love him deeply and my heart aches everytime i think about not being with him. Please some advice!

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Its somehow comforting to realize tat we can get so much support out there and there are people going through the same pain as us...
I m still very sad n hurt. I still miss him n love him. I still hoping that he will reconsider giving us a 2nd chance. I still hope that he still loves me and he still have me in his heart.... whatelse can i do???? nothing but grieving...
Let's hope that we will move on n get over this soon... i like myself more when i am happy n smiling... n i m sure u r the same, right?
sad girl
thats what im aiming at anywayz.
thanx and good luck. break ups are the worst.
amy
xoxxo
tammy
you should try to move on. its sounds like he is too. hes just leading you on. youre better than that. i just got through with a book that helped me soooo much! try reading it then figure out how you feel. i promise, it helps sooo much. anyone who has trouble with breakups i recommend it. its changed the way i view relationships. and gave me hope.
The Mastery of Love (a toltec wisdom book)
by Don Miguel Ruiz.
Hmm.... its me silly girl. I felt bad. :( On the 5th day of no contact, i could not help but sent him another email after seeing him online every evening since we broke off (I have block him so he cant see me) I missed him so much and seeing him online made me doing my 'thinking' again :( 'why is he online playing games every evening when he has a new girlfriend now? Even Friday night and Saturday?' 'Is she really his new girlfriend?? I regretted sending it afterwards :( But since then I deleted his contact from my msn, his email address, emails in the past, pictures....
Why is it so hard to get over this???? :(
How are u doing on your end? I hope u r better than me :)
silly girl
My ex called me yesterday out of no where... it was my 10 days of NC... I have to say I still miss him terribly n have the urged of calling him all the time. Its very painful...
However, his call made things complicated... He said he still loves n misses me n wanted to be with me. But on the other hand, he does not know how to. He is afraid that he is not good enough to be with me. He doesnt want me to suffer together with him. He felt ashame of himself of the situation he is in right now. He said he lost his job again and have not had much luck finding another one yet. He still lives in poverty. The new girl came along when he needed someone most and she 'save' him. He said he does not love her but couldnt break the news to her as she is suffering from severe depression. He is afraid that she might do something stupid if he is to break up with her now. They have been together for 6 weeks now.
I only half believe his 'story'. I believe tat he doesnt love her but i think he doesnt want to break up with her either as in case things doesnt work out for us, he still have her! I told him... if he care that she will not be able to face the fact that he wanted to break up with her now, what makes him think that he will be able to tell her later, especially if he keep leading her on... it will be even more devastating for her in the later stage! He said he did not ask her to be his girlfriend, she simply assumed it as they have been spending quite a lot of time hanging out for the past weeks and when asked, he admitted that he has told her we are over. I then asked him if he doesnt love her n if he still loves me, why would he let her claim to be his girlfriend? why could he not tell her that he is not ready to start another relationship?
I m upset but yet, i couldnt leave him yet at this time... i need to slowly let go... also i want to help him get a job n get him out of his depressing situation. (I told him there is so much we can help, ultimately he has to help himself n do it!)
sily girl
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