Need advice, ex is give mixed signal

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Registered: 04-13-2006
Need advice, ex is give mixed signal
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Wed, 05-03-2006 - 6:22pm
my boyfriend and i broke up on sunday, he tells me he still loves me but we do need to take some time apart, for us to think about things, where we heading with life, and how important we are to each other. I talked to him today and he told me that he needs at least a month to think about things, then maybe we can get back together. I know he loves me and i know that the reason we broke up was because we argued a lot. We argued about little things, his inconsideration of my feelings, i would get mad at him a lot. I realized that but i guess it's too late. I told him i'm willing to change if he's willing to change with me, it takes two to tango, so it's gonna take two of us to fix things. He says he doesn't believe me. I told him that i don't want to lose him, he told me that he's not looking to be with any other women. That i have to trust him, that's not my concern, well it is but what i meant was losing him period. He told me i just have to give him some space, let him have the time he asked for so he can figure things out. What should i do? i need some advice, do you think he's really sincere that he just want some time to figure things out and there really is noone else? i know that i'm going to have to respect the fact that he needs some space, should i wait? i love him deeply and my heart aches everytime i think about not being with him. Please some advice!

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Tue, 06-20-2006 - 11:00am
Susi,
Wow am I gald to hear from you Ithought I was loosing my mind...I couldn't find you on here and I got worried ....sorry to hear that he left but as they say absence makes the heart grow fonder.....and I am praying for you....How are you doing.....
Myself.....I just got out of the hospital and will probably be returning to work tomarrow...have been kinda depressed and sllep alot. Just have to move on....He had his "girlfriend" from arizonia at his house last week and itr kills me knowing that she was doing things with him tha t we used to do.....I just wish he wasn;t such a coward....and I wasn't so in love with him.....yeah well...life goes on....and I need to get on with it......keep me posted and I will continue praying for you and you husband....... Monica
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Registered: 06-06-2006
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 12:55pm

Hi Monica-

Glad to hear you are getting better. Hope your hospital stay wasn't a serious issue.

I pray healing for all of us that hurt. It is a very difficult thing to deal with. But I am not giving up. I watched a program over the weekend about the "Power of Intention". The basic message was that you must believe in that which you want to happen. So I have to keep the positive thoughts. I know the saying about distance making the heart grow fonder. Hope it's true in this case. He did call me yesterday, so at least the lines of communication are open via telephone again.

Do you have support where you are, people you can talk to or come over to help you through this? I find that talking to other people is the best thing I can do right now and I have been fortunate to find some people that will listen. Keep talking to people and keep crying - it's been 2 months for me and not one day has passed that I haven't cried.

Keep in touch.

susi

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Registered: 06-05-2006
Wed, 06-21-2006 - 6:54pm
Susi,
Hello, susi, I am so glad to hear that your guy is calling..keep your chin up....I will pray for you but I am at the point right now that I don't care I have been hurt way to much and life is to short for me to continue living in my dream world...I need to save my sanity....I am not sure that I will be on here much anymore but pleas keep me posted I am done talking and praying....the Lord will take care of me,he will find me a man that wants me for me..so I am moving on...He has hurt me beyond hurt and I will not go on hurting...he thinks he is better than me anyway...so...it's goodbye to him....
You keep yourself going to and As I said keep me posted....Sorry.....take care ......
hurting

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