need to handle breakups better

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Registered: 06-24-2003
need to handle breakups better
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Tue, 07-05-2005 - 9:32am

Hello folks. I know breakups are hard for everyone, but I tend to get very emotional when hit with the news. The last time a man broke up with me I was overcome with sadness and burst into tears. The time before that, I became very angry and actually slapped his face. Are there coping mechanisms for handling such demoralizing news? Is it just a matter of experience...the more breakups you go through, the better you're able to deal with it? Thanks for any info.

Jennifer

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-05-2005 - 5:21pm

jennifer ma...

This is gonna stagger a few members of the female sex who are reading this...but Pianoguy knows men who have "cried after a break-up!" Maybe it's because he was one who HAS!

Only difference is...most males (including PG) keep their emotions to themselves.

Part of it has to do with the 'masculine/men aren't supposed to cry' bit that most of us were handed by our Dads (or domineering Moms). And part of it has to do with the fact that as hard as many of us may try to keep a relationship intact (which means that our women are happy) we often arrive at a point where it doesn't matter what we do!

Once a woman has her 'mindset' to leave a husband, b/f or s.o....or take up with somebody else---there's very little chance she'll change her mind at the 11th hour!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Thu, 07-07-2005 - 7:04pm
I think how you react to a break-up depends on several things, including your personality, his personality, how the relationship had been going and of course the reason for the break and how it came about.
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