Need Help

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Registered: 07-14-2007
Need Help
Sat, 07-14-2007 - 6:55pm
I need help!!!! I was dating this guy for 4 1/2yrs and one day out of the blue he told me that "he did not deserve me and that I was to good for him" this is after 4 1/2 yrs of dating. It came from no where and I didnt understand it. We both went off to school to better ourselves and agree this was for our future. Okay I accepted it and we broke up but we briefly communicated over the following 6 months after he told me this. Then I was going through the healing process. Just when I was getting over him he call me and told me that he was in town. I agree to see him and it felt as if we never broken up. Of course you know what happened we were intimate and then we talk and decide we would try this again. Two weeks later I found out that I was preganant and I told him, he then went into this whole thing like right now isn't the best time etc. I then agree to have a termination. Anyway, long story short he came down to Miami to take me to the doctor. We talk after the procedure and he told me all these things I wanted to hear like we can have a child later on right now wasn't the time. I believe him. Two weeks later I sent him a email saying I want to spend the rest of my life with him. He then told me that he didn't see a future with me and that he wasn't ready for marriage. A week later I ask him if he was seeing someone else because I knew something was up. He finally told me yes and I was shock. Thats when I put two and two together. Thats the real reason for him telling me these lies. I need advice because I can't seem to shake him. I truly thought he was the one I would spend the rest of my life with. How do you deal with this? I find myself wanting to call him all the time just to hear his voice. Its hard when you have given your all to this one person especially when there was nothing wrong in the relationship. We have always had good times, theres nothing negative I can say about the relationship other than when we went off to school everything change. Please help me get over this. If you can give me some encourging words I am sure it will help.