need help asap!

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Registered: 11-26-2006
need help asap!
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Thu, 04-12-2007 - 4:08pm

so i have been dating this guy for about 5 months now. we were officially dating but broke up about 2 months ago, and have since been in an exclusive relationship, but also one that is not as commited. it's been a confusing time for me because i did not want to break up in the first place, but understood why he wanted to - he was going through major financial issues, and problems with other things in his life. through this time i have tried to support him fully. he has been very on-again off-again in dealing with me; one day things are great and the next he's depressed and i don't hear from him.

about 3 weeks ago, he had to move back home for 2 months in order to save up some money. so basically the only way we could see each other is if he came over to my apartment. he's only done this once; however he has made several plans with me and then flaked out at the last minute. i have consitantly brought this up with him and even threatened to end things once before. each time he apologizes and says things are just difficult in his life right now.

well, after him standing me up once again and basically not calling - i told him today, over the phone (unfortunately partially in tears), that i couldn't do this anymore and that i didnt want to be with someone who doesnt want to be with me. he got angry and said how could i say that, of course he wants to be with me, and that we should talk about it this weekend without making any rash decisions.

i dont know what to do - after all this, should i still give him another chance? i've given him so many, and i really do care for him. there's no one else in my life right now (or his, so he says, which i actually believe), but it's always been very easy for me to find people to date... i know i would be lonely without him for at least a little while, and i want things to work out, but i dont know if i should keep putting myself through this. please help~

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
In reply to: cos2006
Thu, 04-12-2007 - 8:45pm
The guy is flaky and unreliable. What's your pay off in continuing in this roller coaster. Let him deal with his life and issues and move on to a more healthy man. I bet you that if you give him another chance he'll do the same. He's and will be the same flaky person he was 2 months ago.