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Need help with a breakup
| Mon, 11-19-2007 - 5:37pm |
I just broke up with my long term girlfirend (4+ years)...here is a little background.
| Mon, 11-19-2007 - 5:37pm |
I just broke up with my long term girlfirend (4+ years)...here is a little background.
Welcome to the board rossjack,
Sorry you are going through this.
Is there anything I can do for her to help her get through this with out ruining her life.
First, seriously, she's never going to *forget* about you.
No problem. I'll keep telling you. :0)
Hey RJ-
I was with my ex for five years and really there is nothing but time to help you get past having such strong feelings for this girl. You can make it easier by finding activities you enjoy, hanging out with friends...basically distracting yourself as much as possible.
as far as keeping in touch with her mom...tread very carefully here. Part of you (and maybe a part that you don't even realize) probably wants to keep in touch with her mom because it helps you stay connected to this girl. You really, really need to break this connection. Expain to her mom that you really appreciate her friendship but for a little while you need to break some communication so you can go off and heal yourself. Let her know it's nothing personal, but by staying connected to her mom you are staying connected with your ex. Her mom shoud understand that it's just what you need right now to heal. It may not always have to be this way, but right now your feelings are too raw.
and i agree with other posters who said that your ex needs to be able to learn to pick herself up and get back on her feet. there is NOTHING you can do to help her.
Hi,
Try a few of these:
The Artist's Way, by Julia Cameron (or just do the 'morning pages' exercise - write daily, like a journal, don't think about what you are going to write, just dump what's in your head on paper)