Need help getting over

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Registered: 05-18-2007
Need help getting over
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Fri, 05-18-2007 - 3:59pm
It has been four months since my ex broke up with me. We were friends for one year while I was still married. Then when I got divorce we started to date and dated for a year and lived together. It was the best year of my life. We seemed to be on the same page. He brought home a puppy for us to have together. Then one day he seemed sad, within a week he was breaking up with me.
I thought my life was over. Nothing hurt more then him leaving. I knew it would take time to get over him, but it has been four months and I still feel like my heart is split in two. The biggest issue is we work together. I would love to just pick up and move so I would have to see him again. Then he had the nerve to try and sleep with me, friends with benifits. And my dumb ass fell for it for a little.
Now we are just trying to be civil, but yesterday my emotions got to me. He came be to pick up something. I told him that it was to hard to see him and talk to him and that I needed space. He sad he was sorry, and that I was a wonderful person, beautiful, smart, and that he stilled cared a lot about me and loved me. But of course he can't be with me right now.
How do I get him out of my head. How do I stop feeling so bad and stop crying over him.
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 4:26pm
You can't avoid what's happening too you, until some time has passed. Right now, time is not on your side, but when it is, you will be fine. You don't see it, and you have to go thru this painful experience. You just have too. Trust me, when it's all over, and you moved on with your life, your experience will only just a memory, with no feeling. Does that make sense? We have all been there, and it hurts like hell, but I had to go thru it, and I survived it. You will too. I promise. You don't see it now, but in the end, you will be happy again, with someone else, and your "ex" will be just that, and "X". Everyone goes thru this process differently, you have too, the best way you can. Good Luck!!!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 05-18-2007 - 4:46pm

Welcome to the board roxy82heart,


Break-ups aren't easy. You have to take time to grief for what might have been, for what could have been, for what you hoped would have been.