Need Help!! I'm Petrified

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Registered: 09-08-2006
Need Help!! I'm Petrified
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Wed, 12-27-2006 - 8:45am

Hi all,

I really need your help. This is regarding a person I met from another state. I wont go into specifics, but all i'm going to say is things took a very different turn and something very bad happened last night. This person has made it obvious that they have certain connections and that they have been seeing exactly what i've been doing online, how many times I visit sites, what sites, when, etc etc. This made me petrified. We had a bit of a falling out over me accusing him of lying about something, then I was proven wrong and after I sent him some messages and an email, he said he would call me possibly that night. My intention was to leave him alone. I even deleted his number from my phone and deleted all messages and everything to make sure I didnt call him anymore. Then at 1am I started getting texts from a strange #. Basically what happened is the guy sent my messages to a friend of his and asked him to send me a message with a very cruel (supposed to be funny) recording on it making reference to a "rejection hotline". The hotline came from a # from his state, so I knew it had something to do with him. Keep in mind, this is waking me up at 1am and scaring me to death thinking i'm getting in trouble. Then I received a message FROM my phone # TO my phone # (and also i'm guessing to this friend of his) asking "when did you send her the text". I then saw what was going on, and that he had this done to me. I couldnt fall asleep until 5:30am and I had to be at work at 7:30, and I am still thinking about this. I am scared because now I see that this guy has the power to see all this stuff i've been doing all along, and god knows what else he knows. I will just say that he has very powerful connections that mustve gotten him this info (it was all true). Now I have this horrible feeling that i'm being watched, not to mention the cruel joke that was played on me. I dont know what to do.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-08-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:21am
And before anyone says inform his ISP or the police, I seriously doubt that would do one bit of good because he is VERY smart with this stuff because of his career. He made certain it was well planned so that it cannot be connected to him in any way. It is not coming from his ISP. It is coming from some strange mail provider that I never heard of, and they used a phone number that is not affiliated with them in any way. They did a good job of making it so that it cannot be traced back to him. In fact, they made it look as though ONE OF THEM WAS SENT FROM ME TO ME!!! That is what I cant believe. Plus, he did not threaten me in any way. He just sent me a cruel joke in a text message.
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Registered: 01-22-2004
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 9:29am
Can you get a restraining order? And can you change your e-mail and cell numbers? I would try to find a way that this guy can never contact you again. If you think he's dangerous or has connections, I would be really careful. Please at least let a trusted friend or family member know what's going on. I had an ex who somehow hacked into my mom's e-mail after I broke up with him. He was reading my e-mail to her before she read it! We'd tried to be friends after this, but I broke off all contact after that. I also got a key to a friend's home and told a lot of people I knew (he threatened to drive 14 hours to see me) so that they would know to watch out for him and call the police if I was missing. If you think he might hurt you, I would be sure to travel in a group and carry a cell phone. If you think he's just a sicko, I would completely ignore him.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2006
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 12:34pm
YOU need to report this to the police... you might not be the first victim of his... but you sure can be his last!
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 12-27-2006 - 4:28pm

Take your cell phone to your provider and show them the text message from yourself to yourself. Ask them to investigate. Tell them you need a new telphone number, new phone, new chip - whatever it takes to prevent this from happening again. They need to know they have a hacker and/or someone that works for their company in another state abusing their position within the company.

::they have been seeing exactly what i've been doing online, how many times I visit sites, what sites, when, etc etc.

Talk to your internet provider about Firewalls and what you can do to protect your computer and privacy.


Carrie

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Registered: 11-29-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 10:56am

Hi, while we're very happy you have come here for support, we really believe should seek some help in real life. It sounds like you're in a very dangerous situation that could escalate rapidly if not handled properly. PLEASE call 911 to report the stalker to your local police so they can take action and take that action NOW.


Here's some information on stalking from the US Dept. of Justice that may help you, too,

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