need honest opinions

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Registered: 02-17-2005
need honest opinions
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Fri, 07-01-2005 - 6:08pm
It's been 13 days since my ex broke up with me. We work for the same company (different locations every week, but share the same central office) and we have mandatory meetings every Friday. My boss has excused me from them because she knows my situation and how much it will put me back if I have to see him every week (especially seeing him around the girl I suspect he's getting super chummy with...aka she has taken my place as his confidant and best friend). I'm wondering though, do you guys think I should try and force myself to go to the meetings to "show" him that I'm "doing well" (big lie!)? I know I'm not ready for it, but if anyone thinks any good could come of it, maybe I'll consider it...Some of the people I work with really want me to come because the meetings are just a time for us to all get together and have some dinner and chat about our week's work, but I am so afraid that I will leave in tears and be set back a ton. Does that make me a weak or childish person that I can't see him?
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Registered: 07-28-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 6:19pm

Honey, this is your job. This is no place to bring in personal dating drama.

Don't sacrifice your work relationships or show weakness at work because you're upset about a guy.

Get your self together and go to these meetings!

**and make sure you look really good on Fridays!!

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Registered: 02-17-2005
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 6:28pm
My boss is my friend's mom....so she knows me and my ex, so my job isn't in jeopardy or anything like that...I just can't handle seeing him right now, I will be a mess. I want to try and start going to meetings again next month, but I'm not sure....
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 7:01pm
You are answering your own question - you are not ready.
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Registered: 07-28-2003
Fri, 07-01-2005 - 10:03pm

Ok....

but see, it doesn't matter who your boss is or whatever anyone knows about your personal drama with this guy.

you are running and hiding because of some guy and because you want to.

gotta toughen up a little bit here, honey. go to the meetings and show yourself what you're made of.

you dated a guy from work and you knew it would be uncomfortable if something went wrong and you'd still have to see him.

now go and be a big girl and don't let this drama affect your behavior at work.

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Registered: 09-17-2003
Sat, 07-02-2005 - 1:00am
OK, how's this for a plan:

Angie