Need just a wee bit of support!
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| Thu, 04-06-2006 - 4:53pm |
This weekend will be the first weekend in three months that I will have not spent with my ex b/f...we broke up last weekend. I freaked just a little bit when I found out that both of my kids will be gone on Friday (leaving me alone) to go with friends. So, my g/f offered to come over and keep me company while helping me paint my walls. She's a good friend! I do have a social gathering that's been on the calendar for a while now (ex was supposed to go with, but I'm still going with friends) and I'm quite looking forward to it (1) because it gets me out and about and (2) it's the perfect opportunity to meet a lot of new people - so if the timing on the breakup had to be right, now was the time.
Anyhow, I'm so afraid that after my g/f leaves on Friday and I'm alone, or when I get back from drinking myself to a stuper (not really) on Saturday, I'll have the urge to call him and that's something that I DON'T WANT TO DO!!! I do, but I don't! The only reason I want to call him is to find out if he's missing me....how silly is that????

I think you said you got Greg Behrendt's book on breakups right? He talks about this exact situation. Use the ideas in the book to spark something that'll work for you...whether it's giving your phone to your friend or something else. As he says in the book, it doesn't matter how silly or extreme it seems...do whatever it takes!!
One thing you might consider is not drinking at all or very lightly this weekend, since it tends to cause one to do things you might not otherwise ;-).
Sheri
I just wanted to second what Sheri said about alcohol - while it seems to make you happy, it is actually a depressant - and might make you feel sadder, which is the last thing you need. And of course, it also can cloud your judgement.
Hang in there this weekend - it will be tough, but you will get through. Take good care of yourself, you deserve it.