Need Some Advice....Tricky Situation
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Need Some Advice....Tricky Situation
| Fri, 07-22-2005 - 1:53pm |
My ex and I broke up about three months ago. We are in school together - in a very small group of students - which necessitated remaining friends. I am seeing someone and he is also. We are both aware of this and are comfortable being around each other. The problem is that I was recently offered a job at a company for which his current fling works. It is a fairly large company - sort of a rehab center - but I would be working at the same "group home" as she. My ex and I were there together at the main facility at one point as part of a clinical rotation and she would come to the main facility occasionally which is how he met her. I believe she works during the day and I would be there in the evening but there is a chance that our paths may cross and possibly cross frequently. She is a student at another school and will be leaving in about two months. My question is, do I tell him about this before I accept the job? I know I don't owe him anything but I just don't want him thinking I am a psycho stalker or something. I really would have preferred NOT to work at the site that she works but it was the only thing they had available. She doesn't know anything about us. I'm not sure if I should say anything to her. What do you guys think???

Don't let personal stuff get in the way of your professional training or education. Telling your ex regarding this coincidental thing is not paramount. Beside that, he's your EX and he's in the past. He's focused in his new relationship and not in the past, you do the same.
Assuming that you three are adults then face the situation as such. Yes, you may have to meet with her at some point, so what? When you work professionally you'll have to work with people you may not like, but you have to do your work.