Need some alternatives

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Registered: 01-01-2007
Need some alternatives
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Sun, 01-07-2007 - 10:28am

Ladies after being away for a weekend I am going back home and since we still share an apartment together (not that he's been there in a week since we broke up) I'm feeling real apprehensive about going back today. I'm real nervous b/c I know he's been out doing whatever he wanted and having a great time doing it. All I can think of is that he's hooked up or found someone he'd rather be with than me. In addition I don't know how he can just not think of me or want to call me like I do him...However in my defense, I haven't called him. He called me Wed mid day but I didn't call him back and he called me 2xFri when I was on 7 hr road trip to my parents house. I didn't call back then either b/c I know he didn't call to actually talk to me, he called to make sure I had the dog with me and probably to see when I thought I'd be home Sun (so he can make sure he's not there)That breaks my heart. I'm not sure how to not talk to him all the time and not think about him as we have for the past 7 yrs. Thank god we weren't married but I almost feel like we were and it hurts me.

But what I'm really here for today is to get all your ideas on how to meet new people. I'm 34 yrs old and am not exactly a social butterfly unless I'm at work. I don't really have any g/f that I can do things with (they're all married, have kids, are in relationships and just want to be with that person)and I need to start doing things for myself. I haven't done that in a real long time and am out of practice.
I do plan to join a gym b/c that will help me mentally and physically and I know I can get my friends to go to dinner and stuff but where am I going to meet "other people".
I can't be a hermit and let him get the best of me.... I have to get out in the world and become INDEPENDENT ME!!!!!!

Any help you can offer will be greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 01-05-2007
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 11:30am
Joining a gym might also be a great place to meet "other people". You could find someone to work out with at the gym. And then work out with them away from the gym, and then...who knows...You could always join some sort of class that interests you. That way you are having fun doing something you want and at least that would be something to "build" from if there are any sparks within that class.. You could also check out an online dating service. As long as you be careful and know what you are looking for. It would be a better option if you had less time on your hands. That way, while your at work oneday, you can pop in somewhere with a computer and just check your messages and what not. It doesnt take hours to do, just a few minutes to message someone or reply to them. Its a great way to meet new people who have some of the same interests as you. But it is always better to get out and do fun things to. And if you meet someone while having fun, then its all the better.