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| Fri, 07-14-2006 - 10:03pm |
I have to write again, I need someone to talk to, like everyone else here Im going crazy I want to keep in touch with my ex. I want to email him, call him, and the thought that I will never see him again is very real considering he is in EUROPE and Im here in Canada. I just feel like Im giving up on this, but really he has given up on me and us and this isnt the first time. So I just have to STOP. and keep reminding myself that I am too good for him, there is someone else out there for me. Its hard though when I devoted the past year to living with him and starting a life there. I moved there, a billion miles away and trusted in him. Now when I came back to see my sister have her baby, he called me and told me he couldnt go on. For what reason who knows? Nothing really logical that I can wrap my head around! Space and wants to be alone. So here I am back in Canada, which was suppose to be a holiday but now its permanant again. I have no job, my career will have to change, I will have to move back in with my parents, which isnt the end of the world since Im 24. My friends seemed to have all moved on, and I have to start my life over compelty. Its my fault I know but its hard, I just believed in love and making it work, but everyone says I tried too hard...But hey Im just a hopeless romantic is that bad? I wont let myself devote my life so completly to a man again, but it had been 7 years, i thought it was worth it! Everything was great when I was there, adding to the pain, we left on a good note. Romantic weekend away and a great dinner the night before I left. Hugs and kisses before I left. And it just kills me to think that was the last goodbye, I didnt even know it. But he decieved me, I have to remember that, maybe he knew it, even though he said he didnt. Now what to do all my things there, my life left there! How do I even manage to get them back here in Canada! It will cost a fortune. My ticket is still booked for the 25th of July! My boss thinks Im coming back to work then too!!!! I dont want to cancel it all, But he doesnt seem like he is gonna change his mind and should I even let him do this to me again, he did it to me last year too and I let it go on for 6 months or more! Help me fix this mess Ive made. Suggestions?
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Dear Suz,
ohh noo, he didn't.....just call you after you leave just for a visit to tell you like a COWARD that it's over???
You keep that ticket and go back on the 25th and tell him you started a new Life there with him and because of him, he'll have to either make it work with you or help you get your stuff home.Plus you have a Job over there, at least he should let you stay so you can work,until you can save up some money and get situated back in Canada.He can't leave you hangin' like this!!!
Don't let him do this to you. Be strong and maybe you guys can talk over it in person, he needs to be a man and tell you the real reason he wanted to break up to your face!!
Please, let me know what you're going to do.
MoniGee
Hey Suz,
I am so sorry that you are going through all this....it royally sucks. Although I do agree with the last poster that you should keep your plane ticket for the 25th and go back, I don't agree that he should make it work. After my breakup with my ex of 5 years (we were extremely on and off...broke up 3 times and I took him back EVERY time) I realized I that I was too good for his crap and that if he didn't want to be with me then it was his lose...not mine. And the same goes for you. You can't make someone want to be with you as much as we would all like that to be the case. So definitely go back, get your stuff, talk to your boss and head yourself back to Canada. I wouldn't give him the time of day. Tell him that your sorry he feels that way, get the answers you need for your own closure and let it be all. If he's done it once, take it from me, he'll do it again and again and not only will you be unhappy you will also be insecure and wonder when the next time will be that he decides he can't do it again and needs space from you.
Most of all, take care of yourself. Go out with family, friends, your new niece/nephew and do things that make you happy. Rediscover the things you love to do. We've all been through it before and are all here for you.
Take Care,
Catgirl
I will eventually find someone who cares. And yes all my things are still there, but who cares they only will remind me of him. I am only 24 and I can move on with my life and pick up again on my life in Canada. This is the second time he did this to me and I am better off without. He lost something, not me.
Thanks, my ideas might change again, but remind me of this frame of thought if they do!
Suz,
he seems VERY immature for 32, you are right! Now, that you find his bad qualities outweighing the good, and you know for sure you don't want to waste you're time on him anymore, maybe it's good for you to stay in Canada. Start over from scratch, and stay away from guys like that, you don't need to support a giggolo like that with your own money.
Too bad for the wasted ticket thou, I am from Europe,too (originally), now living in the U.S. and would love to go home, but those flights are rather expensive.
I hope you'll be allright with that decision, let me know if you change you're mind.
I haven'y posted on here, but I've been following everyone's tragic story;s on here since me and my man of 7 years broke up 2 months ago.I'm still hurting for him, too. Haven't seen him, we're 500 miles apart, he moved bach home after six years of us living together, we had a little contact after the breakup, but nothing promising that it will ever work out between us.Besides, he's done too much bad stuff, it's unforgivable.
Well,take care, keep me updated.
MoniGee
I tried so hard, I moved there, got all the visas, found a job in a foreign country that doesnt even speak english. Somehow found friends, a job, loved him and travelled around on my own and that simply wasnt enough after 7 years of trying. He is too selfish.
What is your hypothesis? I like to think it had nothing to do with me or him not loving me enough, this is what gets me through the day.
Thanks for all your support, its helped me a lot@!!!!
What do you think? Am I right on where his mind is at?
Thanks again
Thanks tell me about your story.
Thanks
Suz
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