Need Words of Encouragement
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| Mon, 04-25-2005 - 4:07pm |
Hi Group
I need some words of ENCOURAGEMENT! So I have been pretty good, haven't talked to my ex since last Tuesday, no phone, email, text, IM, nothing! He had put me on his "block" buddy list at work so we wouldn't talk to each other. Well, today I noticed he was on my buddy list, meaning that he had unblocked me. It was also the first day of his new job, so I said "Hi, how is the new job". He was very short, rude, and didn't even ask me how I've been.
Now I feel like an a$$ for even IMing him. Because I am 100% sure that he doesn't give a crap about me and I just weakened myself after doing a whole week of solid inner strength in not contacting him. :)
Well, the best I could do at redeeming myself was END the conversation and put that guy on MY block list.....
Is it never too late to redeem your dignity?

It is never too late!!! You're human, you're going to make mistakes...but the key is to learn from them and move forward.
I'm going to do a Suze Orman here ;-)...I want you to get a pen right this minute and WRITE DOWN how you felt when he was cold to you, and put a post-it note to that effect on your computer, phone, etc, ok???
Sheri
Thanks Sheri! I posted a sticky note in my Outlook Email:
4/25/05
I IM'd Khal today at work. It was the first day of his new job and he had unblocked me on his Buddy List. An invitation to IM him? Probably not, but I decided to do it anyway.
He was very short with me "new job is good, busy" and then said nothing. I immediately got upset, its been a whole week without contact and he obviously doesn't care. I asked him if he cared how I was doing and he said "I know you are doing okay. I'm sure if you weren't, someone would tell me....."
That hurt. I don't want to feel like that again. I won't talk to him again - ever. He's dead to me. He doesn't exist in my world.