The Nerve
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| Wed, 02-23-2005 - 1:24am |
My ex and I were together for 7 years. For 7 years I did everything for him but wipe his a$$. 7 months before our wedding he called it quits. Just one month before that I was raving about my gown to his family and we were talking about our honeymoon. So he completely dumps me less then 4 weeks ago and had another "girlfriend" a week after we broke up. I found this out because I stopped by his apartment to drop some stuff off and pick up a few things and I saw a Valentine's Day card from this girl (who I know by the way and she lives on the other side of the US). In the card she said to him "I love you today, tomorrow and always." Just 2 WEEKS after we broke up, 1 WEEK after they supposedly "hooked up". He swore up and down he only met her the weekend after we broke up. Oh when I asked him if he loved her, first he said "Do you think I'm crazy?"... then he said "yes", then he told me he only said "yes" out of spite!
Here's the thing:
He had the nerve to tell me to stop calling her and hanging up...HELLO! I'm NOT 15 years old, I wouldn't call across the country just to hang up on someone and I DON'T know her freaking number anyway. Obviously she knows about me if she is telling him she's getting crank phone calls so he can only point the finger at me! I told him to tell her not to flatter herself or him! He had the NERVE to say to me "it's a shame you saw the card because it "could" be nothing, she lives across the country"....HELLO, NOT THE POINT! It took him all of 1 WEEK to "move on." On top of that he had the NERVE to say "I know you think I'm the only one for you but..." Is he KIDDING me? We were together for 7 YEARS... Just weeks ago we were ENGAGED to be MARRIED! I had "our" wedding booked! I have a gown and nowhere to wear it! Not for nothing but it will take me a lot more than a few weeks to get over this! I'm not one to wish ill will on anyone but I really hope this "relationship" blows up in his and her face.

I called off my wedding a little over two years ago. My ex had a new girlfriend within two weeks. It was a girl he worked with. It lasted for a little while, but while he was with her, he was having an affair with a married woman. He broke her heart too. I saw him not too long ago and he's living with a girl and they have the same relationship that I had with him.
The relationship will end up like yours because they don't change. It's going to be tough for you for a while. It was tough for me. I can honestly say when I saw him a few months ago, I knew I made the right decision and it's a great feeling.
I even went on my honeymoon alone!! Take all the time you need and try not to focus on what he is doing because he'll never be happy and the girl he is with will eventually know what you are going through. I dwelled on what he did for way too long. Everything happens for a reason and this is probably a blessing in disguise. At least you found out before you were married with children!!
Good luck and don't worry. You'll find the right one soon enough.