NERVOUS ABOUT SEEING HIM

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Registered: 07-17-2007
NERVOUS ABOUT SEEING HIM
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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 10:50am

Hi all, have been here before, broke up with bf of 3 1/2 mths 2 weeks ago and have not seen him for that amount of time.

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 12:29pm

First of all, good luck with your dr's appt this afternoon!

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 12:39pm

Thanks Sheri!

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 4:32pm

Well just got back from the cardiologist, have to have an echo cardiogram next!

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 4:58pm

Ugh, I had to have one of those about 18 months ago after having an EKG when my BP was high too (from taking too much ibuprofen for a tailbone injury, it turned out--I thought it was altitude sickness as it started when I was in Colorado skiing!).

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Tue, 10-02-2007 - 5:29pm

Stress manifests itself in amazing and varied ways, and always

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 9:31am

Just an update here, saw the xbf at bowling last night.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:12am

It sounds like it went about as well as it could have--glad to hear it.


I would just caution you against trying to make the transition to friends too soon--I know for me, when I've tried to do it right away (especially with the physical touches he's giving you), it has made the whole thing more painful because you start thinking, we get along so well, why can't we make it work and it's easy to either get sucked in to a FWB thing or just be in a painful limbo where you can't move on because the "friendship" is more like a pseudo-relationship.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 11:31am

Thank you Sheri, I agree with you.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 3:55pm

If friends it will be, then you really must enforce a boundary of limited physical touch.

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Wed, 10-03-2007 - 8:15pm

That sounds pretty positive, really. Both of you had a lot of growth in your relationship. There seems to be a lot in it that was a success...you negotiated in, and now you have negotiated out. I admire what you've done.

And good for you for facing being around him. I hope I do half as well when the time comes (I dread it).