The never ending cycle /:
Find a Conversation
| Wed, 10-24-2007 - 1:05am |
1:03 am
Okay i will do anything for advice. I am having a hard time handling this anymore. I've tried everything to get over this boy and and any help would be great /:
So this all started about a year ago and i will try to make it as short as possible. I met this boy and we were really close, he called me every night, we hung out constantly, we practically dated, he even told me he loved me. but he never asked me to be his girlfriend but our relationship was going so well I didn't care and I didn't want to ruin it. So about a year into this relationship we had going I figured out he had had a girlfriend the whole time. I was so upset and all I did was cry and sob but i never showed that i was mad at him about it. i never let him know how much he hurt me because i was head over heels for him and I couldn't get over him.
So finally I told him we just needed to stop talking completely that way I could get over him (or at least I thought). I tried everything I stopped talking to him, I stopped walking with him in the halls at school, I tried to stop thinking about him, I tried not talking about him, I tried the "write down your emotions" method, I even went the whole summer with out contact with him. I cried every single night that summer and I just couldn't stop thinking about him.
Then near the beginning of the next school year I got an unexpected phone call from him saying him and his girlfriend broke up and he really missed me and wanted to start hanging out with me again and I fell right back into this trap. We started talking again and hanging out and doing everything we did last time. It was just this time was a little different he would call me for about a week straight then stop for about two weeks and I didn't know what was going on and then he would call and say he just wanted to be friends and then not call me forever. Then a couple weeks later he would call me again saying he missed me. Then call me a couple days later saying he wanted nothing to do with me. He has been so rude to me but when hes sweet to me it makes me forget about everything rude he says to me. And I would love to get over him that way I wouldn't have to go through SO much pain but I don't know how /:
Every time he calls wanting to come back I always take him back and I don't know why. Why is he so special? why cant I move on from him? Its so hard crying every single night. I cant stop, its just like a never ending cycle of pain and tears. I pray about it all the time and I've even tried finding another boy but nothing works ):
I would do anything to be happy again... all I've been for the last year and a half is sad. sometimes I just wish he would have never come into my life. But he did and now I want him out of it but at the same time I feel like I cant live without him. ANY advice would be wonderful! I'll take anything for help.
Thanks.

The problem here is your choices. He calls, you answer, you chose to pick up the phone. He emails and you answer, you chose to type the message. You can always choose to not do either of these things any time you want. Begin to make different choices and you will have a different outcome. You also have control over your thoughts. Once you find yourself thinking of him, interrupt those thoughts and replace them with different thoughts. You can also create a mental picture in your mind of pushing the reset button on your computer, literally resetting your thoughts. Create a picture in your mind of you having a relationship with someone else that treats you how you want to be treated. If you continue to practice these things and have no contact with him, you will be able to move on.
Good luck,
YG
http://twodatediva.blogspot.com/
YG
http://twodatediva.blogspot.com/
Hi Sarah,
I see you found your way over to this board.... I hope you find some helpful articles in the Resource Section.
Sorry you are having a hard time with all this.