new breakup = very lonely
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new breakup = very lonely
| Tue, 01-16-2007 - 12:45pm |
My boyfriend and I broke up a little over a week ago. We had been dating for 2 and a half years and the breakup really killed me. We decided to stay friends and for the past week that had been going pretty well. After finding out that he is trying to date other women, I realized that it hurt too much to try to be "just friends". I met up with him and told him how I felt. He understood and since then we haven't talked; that was two days ago. I'm not a huge wreck, and I have been going to work and trying to keep myself busy, but I'm so scared of what's to come this weekend. When he and I started dating each other I had just moved to town and his friends became my friends. I realize that it's no longer okay for me to call them and see if they want to hang out or anything, but that leaves me very lonely. I have family and a couple of friends of my own, but both are kind of flakey. I know there is no instant remedy to get me out of this "funk" but maybe some advice would help? I would love to keep myself busy with shopping and pampering, but money is a little tight and I have to be careful. I guess I need advice on how to stop thinking about him and missing him. Also advice on how to keep myself busy would be great.

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"How to heal a broken heart in 30 days",by Howard Bronson & Mike Riley
"The girls guide to surviving a breakup" by Delhine Hirsh
My family & friends are so done with hearing about what i'm going through,so this message board is a great outlet for me.I never would have known that there are so many ladies in my same situation.My ex,also posted to a personals website ,24 hours after he broke it off with me.Which is still so un believable.But his post is all lies.So i guess he'll just find another sap to "fill my shoes",blindsided by all of his lies. Everyone says how much better i am without him,it just hasn't sunken into my brain or heart,YET.I do say YET,i have a strong feeling i soon will believe it.All I have to say is thanks for reading this,Hang in there.Someday it will be all a forgotten time,at least the pain is sure to go away with time.
I am so sorry to hear about your breakup and I hope you are doing better from when you first posted. My breakup happened 7 months ago and my friends and family were my saving grace during the first few months of the breakup which were the most painful. If you don't have a wide circle of friends, get signed up on meetup.com. It is a great website to meet people in your community that are going through the same life challenges you are. Also, I started going to church with a girlfriend of mine and I am telling you.....it is the best thing that has happened to me since my breakup. It is amazing how God can feel a void in a person's life when they are going through hard times. The church I joined is a "mega church" and that is good for me because they have activities going on all the time and they have a singles ministry which I will most likely get involved in. When I first started going to church, I still had some anger inside from my breakup and now that anger is gone and I can let go of a painful '06 and look forward to a better '07. I really wish you the best, I know what you are going through and we are all here for you. Most everyone on this board feels the pain you are dealing with and it helps to talk to people who are going through the same thing.
Take Care!
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