The new girlfriend

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Registered: 12-03-2004
The new girlfriend
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Mon, 01-03-2005 - 12:07pm

So after two months of being broken up with my boyfriend of two years i got the pleasure of running into him with a new girl. I live pretty much accross the street from him but I have only run into him maybe twice since we broke up. Well yesturday I was in a totally different neighbourhood in a store with my roommate and all of a sudden i hear someone saying hi to her and her boyfreind....i didn't see who it was but then i looked over and it was my ex! He was with a new girl which i'm assuming is someone he's dating. I was like oh this is just wonderful and walked off to the checkout. As soon as he saw me he and the new girl hightailed it out of the store. He didn't even say hi to me. What a coward. I think he thought i would have caused a scene and he's right! He's lucky he didn't stay in the store longer because i was ready for a throw down! It made me so angry to see him with someone that wasn't me. Now i have nothing against this girl because she probably has no idea what she's getting herself into....but I will say that she was not that attractive....which made me feel a whole lot better. I ran out of the store to the street to see if i could see them but they had disappeared. Lucky.

I was just so disgusted with him. He's treated me like crap since we broke up....this is the same person who a month before was asking me to move with him to another city...we were house hunting and talking about engagement. So when i got home I wrote him an email saying what a coward i think he is and how his behaviour disgusts me. I am so lucky to not be with him anymore. For all the hurt that i'm going through I'm glad i found out the real side of him now before i did marry him and ruin my life!

The good thing is that when i saw him it didn't make me miss him. I didn't recognize the person that I saw....he was not the same man or shall i say child that i fell in love with. I know now that I never want him back in my life. I am way too good for him and I deserve so much more that what he could give me.

So that was my day yesturday....happy new year to me!

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Registered: 01-04-2005
In reply to: endo25
Tue, 01-04-2005 - 2:25am
Good for you Honey!! Really...I am awaiting the time when I get to see my ex and his new woman. What will I do??? Probably become nauseous I'm sure. But anyway, I admire your style and honesty...You are smart and strong!! I know it hurt but you got a handle on all that unncessary sadness before it had a chance to bring you down...way down anyway. I think you just helped me figure out what to think when I face my demons too. Thanks sweetie and hold on....the right one for you is coming!!
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Registered: 12-03-2004
In reply to: endo25
Tue, 01-04-2005 - 9:53am

Thanks for the boost! I have to say that I did have a little breakdown yesturday...I think the shock of the whole ordeal wore off and I finally realized what i had seen. It's still painful to think that the person whom you thought loved you can turn out to be suck a jerk and coward. But I still know that I am the bigger person in all of this. The bad thing about this is how close we live to each other. We live pretty much accross the street from him. I have to walk by his place every day and i'm cosntantly paranoid that i'm going to run into him. I just wish he would move away like he was planning before we broke up. I need a fresh start with him as far from me as possible.

I returned some of the things that he had bought me over the years....jewellery and other stuff....i just put on a note that said that this stuff meant nothing to me now so do what you wish with it. I know i'll never wear the jewellery again....it's just too painful.

I will never understand how some men can move on so easily.