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| Thu, 01-11-2007 - 1:16pm |
Five months ago the guy I was seeing broke up with me. I have some trust issues and he couldn't take it anymore. He said that he would never be in a relationship with me again but to give him time and not pressure him. Before Christmas we went to dinner and got some drinks. Very innocent but that was the first time we hung out since everything happened. Then he came over to hange out again. We cuddled, held hands. Nothing else happened it was very G rated. He has been talking to me more and more and I get that comfortable feeling back. I questioned him on what was going on with us and he went off saying that just because we hung out doesn't mean anything.
How do I let go of a man I love and still remain friends with him? Is it possible?

well cant blame you...this what mistake every woman does all the time....sleeping with their ex...well i did that too with my other ex...LOL
us lady after we broke up with our ex and we end up sleeping with them again.....WE ASSUMED THAT EVERHYTHING TURN OKAY..THAT THEIR BACK W/US....you know what i mean...but for them its just sex.....
now if he act like that to you...it doesnt mean he doesnt love you anymore....sometimes guys like's to play hard to get...(ego) first of all he wont sleep w/you if he doesnt have feelings anymore right?? but ofcourse he wants to play games w/you....well just act normal...act like its just sex...no big deal...
dont contact him...i bet you he'll come running after you...good luck
Single mom?
Hmmm... it's exactly what I am asking myself right now.
Yes, I believe in my heart and know from experience that it is possible.
But if you need some incentive to have no contact for a while until the pain is healed... use what I read here on this board and I can't remember who said it...
WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO BE FRIENDS RIGHT NOW WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS BROKEN YOUR HEART?
right now... you need to be friends with people who will help you to heal.
Tell him that you need some space and time... and that although you are feeling better about things you need some time to get yourself together.
Then cry... because it's going to be hard.
*hugs*
::How do I let go of a man I love and still remain friends with him? Is it possible?
It possible, but usually only after a period of NO CONTACT to heal, especially since you already are 'hoping' that hanging out means more.
Carrie
Well, I think you DO need to talk to people about it - friends, family, the women here...
My opinion is that I would die if my ex and I had to see each other every day right now. It would break my heart to see him I think. I avoid going to places where he could or might be... at all costs. We don't work together, but we do work close to each other.
If you told him that you need space, and he called that immature... honey... GET OUT.
I know it isn't easy - but let me tell you from someone who knows - YOUR HAPPINESS IS NOT A GAME. He's the one playing with you... not the other way around.
And... I'm assuming that you have kids? I do. Three. And I know that more than anything else in the world I need to be there to support them through this change and that a band aid would make it a lot easier. My little one actually offered to put one on my heart if I would just smile for a few minutes. I held her... for an hour. She's 8. She thought I was an oddball.
since a job change probably isn't in your near future... I would try to avoid him. Be civil when you see him and if you feel uncomfortable find ANY excuse to get away.
Don't let him control how you heal and how you feel... you can do this...