New here and Plesase Help!!!!

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Registered: 10-29-2004
New here and Plesase Help!!!!
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Wed, 11-17-2004 - 3:37am

I was with this guy for 4 1/2 years....very passionate relationship. I left him. For 2 years I couldn't date - no desire for it. I pined for my old bf back. I cried almoost everyday over him. Out of the blue 2 months ago he called. We tried it again. Nothing but screaming and fighting. So, last week we called it off (again). Gosh how I still love him. The 2 year seperation didn't help. And the fact that for 2 months we tried again only made matters worse for me.

Help!!!! I can't even get away from him in my sleep! I dream of him....long for him. I know its truely over though. I don't think that there's any hope for us. How do I get over him? How do I stop dreaming of him? My candle still burns for him. HELP!!!!!

StormyMoon

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Registered: 09-10-2003
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 10:10am
I don't know how to get over him. I'm in the same boat - my boyfriend of 1 year who I thought was the one broke up with me over the weekend and I'm coming to the realization that it is truly over. I cry everyday and I haven't been able to eat. But I know deep down that I will be okay. I have wonderful friends who keep on telling me that I will find that someone who will think I'm the one. I think you should focus on yourself right now - get in touch with your friends, take classes, workout, etc. And keep posting - it helps me to tell others my sadness, hopefully it helps you too.
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Registered: 11-10-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 9:45pm

my boyfriend of 4 years has just broken up with me. We were together for 2 years then he finished with me, when i was 8 months pregnant with his child. He went back to his home country of portugal and i cried everyday. I finally started to move on and then after 6months apart he came back. I agreed to give it another go and we were togrther for another year and a half until he finished with me about 3 months ago. I was heart broken. still am really. i miss him and think about him all the time.

Now for the good news! Even though i do still think about him, it doesn't hurt all the time. I very rarely cry over him and it really is getting easier with every week that goes by. I can't even think about being with another guy. But i go out with my friends and just have a laugh. The first weeks are awful but it really does get better. I know what you mean about splitting up for the second time being worse than the first. maybe because it makes it so final and because its so hard to believe that you can love someone so much and yet you just can't seem to make it work.

good luck and i hope things get easier for you soon.

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Wed, 11-17-2004 - 10:43pm
Welcome to the board!! I'm sorry that things didn't work out between you and your ex. But at least now you know maybe that you now realize there isn't any hope.....you'll be able to let go and get over him.....it will take time though. I would cut all ties with him, rid your house of anything that reminds you of him (if it's removable) and try and stay busy....hang out with friends, exercise, take up a hobby. Good luck and keep us posted!!











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Thu, 11-18-2004 - 5:54am

Thanks everyone......gosh it hurts soooooo bad. My heart pounds, I feel sick all the time, disorentated, confused, lonely, scared, and shakey. I feel literal pain in my heart. No joke - my heart really hurts - I can feel the chest pains. I shake and cry all the time. Seeing my shrink over this too. How weird is that?

Thanks for being here for me
StormyMoon