New here - this is hard

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New here - this is hard
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Tue, 02-05-2008 - 12:48pm

So here's my story.

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Registered: 06-22-2006
Tue, 02-05-2008 - 3:01pm

Hi and welcome,


This is definitely a problem, usually it's the other way around but as women become more and more independent and define themselves less and less solely on the basis of marriage and motherhood, this trend continues in the direction you're heading.


The question isn't that you don't want children, the question is that you're not sure you do.

Myspace Codes

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Registered: 01-18-2008
Wed, 02-06-2008 - 9:00am

Dont break up with him just because you dont want kids now. You may want them in the future. This is often how it goes with women. One day we absolutely dont want kids, the next day we want them. Same with him. One day he might want them the next day he doesnt. But as long as I have lived (45) I have never met a parent who didnt love and want thier children even if they werent planned. Children change you. My current boyfriend didnt want kids at all. But had 3 of them because his wife wanted them. Now he is the involved loving father and never regrets having them.


Hang in there. The future is unknown. Its not worth ending a good relationship because you are uncertain of the future.


Laurie