New here... Need some understanding...

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Registered: 03-26-2003
New here... Need some understanding...
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Fri, 07-29-2005 - 1:50pm

Hi there, (I'm sorry, this is a little long, but I thank you for reading...)


I'm new to this board, but was a member of the Parenting & Pregnancy boards in 2003. So sad to be

Deanne
Mommy to Britney (17), Raul (16), Mackenzie (10) and Jeffrey (23 months)
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Fri, 07-29-2005 - 2:06pm
Whew Deanne! You go ahead and vent and get that anger and frustration right outta there! You've got quite a bumpy road ahead of you, but good news is...You've got a clear path to take! You know exactly what you need to do so hold your head up and hold on to those children tight, someone from up above is going to help carry you. Sending hugs to you and healing prayers about your test results, you are going to need strength to get through it, and caring support. NOT from this fella. Get as far away from him as you can so he doesn't drain anymore life out of you. I'm sorry your heart is hurting that he won't be there for you, and I know you are frustrated and disappointed in this failed relationship, but you can't carry it all on your shoulders with his lazy drunk tail too! You are doing the right thing by leaving, find support from friends and anyone who will lend you a helping hand. The money will come from somewhere, a good place will open up, the sun will shine on you Deanne, but you have to believe in yourself, those childeren and have faith that you WILL make it through this. You sound together and strong, but tired and uncertain. And thats completely understandable. You never deserve anyone to talk to you like that, so don't you listen to a word he has said to you. He is sick, and in denial and you cannot help him. He will only drag you down, so be strong, and keep going, one day at a time Deanne, and you are going to come through shining!
Lots of hugs
Grace
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 07-29-2005 - 3:48pm

Grace,


I cannot tell you how deeply your words have affected me. It was just the sort of thing I needed at this point. It's 3:45p for me and my appointment to review my results is in exactly one hour. I truly thank you for your words of support and your prayers.


Hopefully I will be back tomorrow with some good news.


Thanks again,
Deanne


Deanne
Mommy to Britney (17), Raul (16), Mackenzie (10) and Jeffrey (23 months)
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Fri, 07-29-2005 - 8:27pm

Wow. I am so sorry to hear you are having to deal with all of this. This guy is a horrible person. I can't even imagine someone being so cruel. He has shown his true colors, and they aren't pretty.

The best thing you can do for yourself and your kids is to get this man out of your life. It's hard to realize when you are in a bad relationship just how draining it is, but once some time has passed you will realize that your life is better off without him. You need to concentrate on your health (I hope you got some good news on the tests today) and your kids - not to mention your job. This guy wasn't adding anything to your life - he was taking away your energy and you need that energy now more than ever.