New twist on NC
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| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 5:26pm |
I have a new twist on ya'll for NC ... my ex-bf and I WORK TOGETHER. So as much as I'm trying to NC, I can't because he is my co-worker. So today he calls for help on something and I didn't answer. I call him back and he says "well I needed your help but since you never answer your phone anymore I found someone else." And I wanted to say, "Well since you never call anymore I'm not used to hearing my phone ring."
Because at first after we broke up, I didn't really enforce NC. I wouldn't call him or text him first, but since I was angry I would ignore his. Once things started to get better and look like they were on the up, I did start answering his calls and texts. Now that they've been on the road back down and since I asked him what we are and he couldn't answer it, I haven't been initiating contact and haven't been returning all of his, but like I said its hard because we work together. And then its hard when I do talk to him and its just about work because I hate feeling just like his co-worker.
I know this is a pretty unique situation but any thoughts? I would like to change jobs to not have to deal with it but our company is being bought out which the deal should close at the end of the year and I get a pretty huge bonus for staying on through that so it'd be pretty hard to leave ...

Welcome to the board scoobynshaggy22,
You might find this interesting reading:
Handling Breakups at Work
I will check that out Carrie, thank you.
Lisa
Lisa
Wow that's a hard one. I kinda know how you feel. This morning which was almost two weeks of NC he send a text with just my name and ..... What the hell was that? What is he trying to say? Made me mad and I didn't respond.
I found that very helpful. Here's whats good and not good about my situation:
Not good-
-We don't just work for the same company, we work for the same supervisor so we are truly co-workers
-I have to communicate with him almost daily as I do my boss and other co-workers
Good-
-We don't work in an office building, we are retail store managers so we are in different territories and I don't have to "See" him on a daily basis or even a regular basis
-I got him the job (when we were together) so I get a referral bonus :)
Lisa
Lol ... I know what you mean. Mine won't text me for days and then out of the blue I'll get a text with a lyric from a song that he just heard that we used to laugh about together ... WTF? You don't seem to care at any other moment of the day but you hear a song we used to laugh about and you send me the lyric?
Don't you just wonder whats in their heads sometimes?
Lisa
Here's another new twist ...
I get back in town on Monday after going home to visit my family and friends (which really helped by the way) and I find out that we are having an operations review at work over the next 3 days and we ALL HAVE TO BE THERE. Which means, yes, I have to spend the next 3 days with my ex. And we are all expected to go out to dinner together. I started out thinking "man this week is going to suck." But I knew that that wasn't going to help me get through it, so I decided to try to remain positive and upbeat.
Well I tried that ... but he was text messaging someone all day and kept smiling and laughing at his text messages. I'm sorry but a dude isn't gonna smile and laugh at text messages from his buddy. Then he kept leaving to go out and talk on the phone too. It just brought up all my bad feelings about the whole situation. And I've suspected him of being involved with someone around the time we broke up and he said nothing happened because she is married, they just went out a couple times for drinks so he could help her with some issues she was having with her marriage. Well i believed him, but more and more I'm suspecting that wasnt really the case. And she's still married by the way.
So at dinner last night I sat at the opposite end of the table as him. Which worked out really well. Then after dinner, he came down and sat by my boss, and he gets a text and smiles and shakes his head (and mind you, boss knows that we were involved and that we are no longer and that I was pretty hurt) and boss asks "is that a girl?" and he just looks up and smiles. At that point, I excused myself and went to the bathroom. I was going to sneak out but the BIG BIG boss caught me on my way out and said "you're not leaving are you?" So I decided to stick it out. Well as I was sitting there trying to hang out, I couldn't even look at him it was eating me up so I finally said I was going to leave. After I did, I hear him do the same behind me and following me out. So I decided to detour to the bathroom because i AM NOT walking out with him. Then he's behind me to the bathroom going hey ... hey ... hey ... and then finally shouted my name so I spun around and said WHAT?!?!? and he says "are you okay to drive home?" I looked at him like are you f-ing kidding me? You had more to drink than I did? And F you for being so inconsiderate to sit there and text your girlfriend all day in front of me. So I just said um yeah. And he said um okay and leaves. As I'm behind him in the parking lot, he squeals out, hits a cone and turns the wrong way out of the parking lot. dufus.
Lisa