New Years

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Registered: 10-02-2007
New Years
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Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:03pm

I'm curious.
I have no desire to be out on new years. This year has been so complicated and just tough.
And while in the past I have been the type of person to try and rally and go out on New Years with a positive attitude, this year, i honestly just feel like having dinner with a friend and then going to bed and waking up in 2008.
Is this my depression talking?
It's not that i want to sit home and mope, it's more that I really just want this year to be over.And I don't actually want to sit and toast to the new year, I don't want to hug and celebrate. I just want it to arrive and to begin.

What else are other's doing? My ex-boyfriend and I broke up (officially) two weeks ago. I'm getting to a good place about it, but I still don't feel like CELEBRATING!!
Should I?
What do others do?

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Registered: 12-21-2007
In reply to: paprgrrl
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 12:29pm

Hi,


I feel the EXACT same way… And I'm doing just what you said you felt like doing. I'm just going to my best friend's house for dinner and just to hang out and watch tv. This has become sort of a tradition with us, as neither of us has ever really been into the whole "going out to a bar on new years and getting smashed" thing lol… I like to just go to her house and relax with her and her boyfriend and kids and ring in the new year in a relaxed way.


Every year, if I happen to be seeing someone when New Year's rolls around, they're always welcome to join me and we'll go there together, but the last 3 years in a row have been bad and I've had to go alone :( This coming one is the worst, because as you'll see in my other posts, my now ex broke up with me 4 days before christmas. We actually had plans to go to my best friend's house together, but everything (as you can imagine) fell apart and I'm left riding out the holidays all alone, but its ok. I know its better off this way. But to answer your question, yes, I know exactly what you mean, and you know what? I think when you're in a situation like ours, maybe part of it could be a little of the depression talking, but I don’t think all of it is. I think the important thing is to just surround yourself with love (even if its just one or two people who GENUINELY care about you) and just do what YOU want to do. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to ring in the new year.

Jacki

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: paprgrrl
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 5:43pm

I can't tell you how much I can't wait for this year to be over and actually for Jan 30th for Mars to go direct, but that's whole other story.


I'm going early

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Registered: 11-28-2007
In reply to: paprgrrl
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 6:19pm

Hi There


Just wanted to say that I dont think it is depression that is making you feel like not wanting to celebrate the new year.

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Registered: 10-02-2007
In reply to: paprgrrl
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 8:10pm

Well, that makes me feel better to hear there are others who would rather stay home with a good movie and a good friend.
My mother (mother's!) told me to stop moping and to ring in the new year with excitement. But, honestly, what everyone is describing, especially you cl-twinflame- sounds wonderful. I may take a nice mediation class, go sit on the beach during the day, see my family, head out to dinner with a friend and then watch a movie. if i make it to midnight, then fine. if not, that's fine too.
Thanks everyone!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: paprgrrl
Wed, 12-26-2007 - 10:31pm

I feel EXACTLY the same way. I am struggling

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Registered: 10-03-2005
In reply to: paprgrrl
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:40pm
I am spending it with my parents, and also have no desire to go out and be social. So true -- the last time I had fun on New Years was when I was a teenager... :)
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Registered: 10-02-2007
In reply to: paprgrrl
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:54pm
I am usually very proactive about New Years. I go out, go dancing or try to do something to celebrate the last year and the new year coming.
But this year, i just want it to end quietly and for the new year to come in peacefully.
2007 was complicated and hard. A dichotomy of really great things and really awful things.
I lost myself, found myself and know don't know what to do with myself.
Breaking up with my ex doesn't leave me feeling excited or happy, relieved or ecstatic. I'm just confused. And I hope to get some clarity in the next few months that will absolve me of all of these feelings of confusion.
THAT will not be found while having small talk with a bunch of drunk guys and me wearing a 2008 party hat. Although, maybe I will get the hat just to wear at home.