Newly heartbroken

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Registered: 01-14-2007
Newly heartbroken
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Sun, 01-14-2007 - 11:12pm

Hi everyone,

I'm feeling pathetic right now and hoping that someone has gone through the same thing.

Long story short - met a guy through work and was instantly attracted to him. Nothing happened as we were living in different states but we stayed in touch. Finally, after 9 months of emails and occasional calls, he flew over about three months ago and we started a long distance relationship. On our third visit together, he told me that he was 'in love' with me and to not be afraid of distance, differences, and background, etc.... b/c all would work out! I started to believe it b/c I know how hard long distance can be...anyways, he left and I didn't hear from him for a week. He finally calls a couple of days before I'm scheduled to fly out there and says - I don't think we're going to work out b/c I can't do long distance... I just don't know how you can go from 'being in love' to wanting nothing to do with the person!? how does that happen. I havent' heard from him since then and I'm not holding my breath...

I guess I just want to know if anyone has had similiar dealing?!! Or if anyone can shed some light from a guys perspective. Is it another girl perhaps? or just lack of interest?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-07-2007
In reply to: mangool
Mon, 01-15-2007 - 12:43am

first off... I'm SORRY.

It hurts... rejection on any level always does. Long distance relationships are difficult enough to handle, but to leave you with nothing more than an "I don't think it's going to work out"...

Read through the boards here... I know that I have. I also find solace in sharing my experiences with others.

Remember this too, he hurt you. Why should you want him to call? To me, that sounds like total crap right now... as I know it does to you... but it's TRUE logically. Seperate your logic and emotion for a few minutes at a time, and I hope that you find things that pointed to it being better to end it now than in three years when you were expecting more...

My heart goes out to you... I hope that you get some sleep tonight and wake up feeling just a little better tomorrow.

Hugs