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Next Door Ex!
| Mon, 10-23-2006 - 3:03pm |
I have been reading some of these messages left by other women about how it is so hard to get over there ex. And trust me I can relate to all of them. Rejection, lonelyness, abandonemant, non stop crying. I am a total mess at the moment myself. There is just one thing I think that is holding me back the most and that is my ex is my next door neighbor!! Yeah try getting over someone you almost have to see everyday. We have the same friends in our apartment building that like hanging out with both of us. It hurts so bad because I am such a mess and he continues to get drunk and ride it out. I am currently going to school part time, carring a job full time and trying to attend RCIA class every Weds. nights. You would think with me being so occupied I would have it all under control but the truth is. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can't concentrate on any tasks at hand. WHAT IS A GIRL TO DO!!! Yesterday we had a discussion and he came to my house. we laid down and he held me. He let me cry in his arms till we both fell asleep but then when I woke up he was gone (next door) and now he is avoiding me. I feel like such a fool. I can't help but to think about him all the time. But anyways I wish he understood how hard this is.

I can relate to this because years ago, I dated someone who lived next door to me and after we broke up it was very hard on me especially, when he started dating again. I had to move to another city to get away from him so I could move on. I would highly suggest if you can, to also move and you may have to stay away from mutual friends for awhile. This is really the only solution that is going to work unless he moves first which doesn't sound like he will. It may sound like he is winning control over you if you move but let's be realistic, you have to do what you have to do to move on and seeing him everyday is not the way to do it.
I bet this is also affecting him and you don't realize it. Most men are brought up by parents (mostly dad) that they need to hide their feelings and don't let anyone see them cry so I bet getting drunk is his way of dealing with his feelings and he is affected by this. Besides, why do you want to spend your time with someone who gets drunk anyway? My ex dumped me 4 months ago and NOW I count it as a blessing because he drank a lot with his buddies and I know down deep inside that his drinking habits would never work with me or my daughter.
I am so sorry you are dealing with this and believe me, I know the pain you are feeling.
Take Care!
ofcourse he understand what you been going thru....i'm assuming he felt the same thing like you(sad)...so thats why his trying to avoid you now.
just take it slow everything will be oky...it will take some time...i know its hard coz his your neighbor...but you sound that your doing the right thing to get over him...GOOD LUCK
Good luck!