no birthday wishes from him

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Registered: 08-08-2004
no birthday wishes from him
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Mon, 05-16-2005 - 4:55am

so... he didnt send me any birthday greetings at all... no card, no message, no call, no NOTHING.

im not sure if i was expecting one or if i even wanted one... and i dont really know how i feel about not getting one either...

the thing with him is - he'd only try sooo hard to not be in any contact with an ex if its difficult for him... hes the "stay friends with exes" type, so unless she doesnt mean "much", or other factors such as distance come into play - he'll likely be completely okay with sending a birthday wish or keeping in touch with past flames.. but if its a hard breakup - he'll pull all his roots out ... he'll fight it with all his might ..

so, him not sending me any birthday wishes - essentially means two things: (1) he's REALLY adamant about cutting me out for good, and (2)that its actually hard for him to walk away ...

so a part of me is saddened by how much he is x-ing me...but at the same time, im almost relieved to find that its not so easy for him... its almost comforting to know that he "cares" in an opposite kinda' way?? (if that makes any sense lol)

as my other thread described - he told my friend that he missed me... thats slightly comforting i guess...

but i know on a logical level that it doesnt even matter what he is or isnt feeling, and that a birthday wish would mean didly-sqwuat... i guess i just cant help analyzing and thinking and feeling!! maybe im just kooky like that ... :S

eeksj

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Registered: 12-03-2004
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 9:36am

was it ur birthday yesterday? HAPPY BIRTHDAY - It was mine as well.

I hope you had a great day. I love your attitude about your ex. You sound truly healthy and on the right track.

Me on the other hand - he did call me and we saw eachother . I'm thinking that I may have to move to China.

I had a great b-day weekend with my friends and now, on this Monday, feel like I need a day of sleep because I have been running and running around since Friday and doing different things.

Cheers EEKSJ!

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Registered: 01-30-2004
Mon, 05-16-2005 - 11:20pm
I don't think you're kooky at all!!
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