No Closure

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Registered: 05-29-2007
No Closure
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Sun, 09-23-2007 - 6:20pm

Hello everyone. I usually hang out on a couple of other boards....there are a lots that fit into the mess that I call my life. I found this board, and think that I might have found the understanding I have been looking for. My situation would be entirely too long to explain so

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 7:02pm

I can see your POV since you didn't have an official break up talk, but you've actually gotten a lot more closure than many get.

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Registered: 05-29-2007
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 7:22pm

Thanks for your reply.


There is a disavantage of trying to explain everything in a scaled down version of what actually happend..There are things that I left out of the post because it was long enough. It wasn't that we were not or aren't right for each other...we both know that we truly are...which is why he got really scared about the whole thing. You see, it wasn't his schedule that was the problem, it was the distance between us. He is in Canada, and I am in the U.S.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 7:25pm

Welcome to the board scottslover,


I hope you listen to Sheri. She's right about the closure. What could he possibly say to you that would make you feel ok with the way things have gone, being ignored, him not putting in effort that matches ours?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 7:35pm

Well, timing and location are a huge part of being right for each other--it all has to be in place in order for someone to be right for you at any given time in your life.

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Registered: 05-29-2007
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 09-23-2007 - 8:37pm

Thank you for the welcome and the support. I actually did write a letter this evening, and have no intenion on sending it. It helped a little. It at least helped me put things in perspective. I understand that I have to greive..but I just thought I should be over it by now. I am not going to initiate any contact, so that last conversation is not going to happen. If he contacts me then I will have that conversation.

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Registered: 10-21-2007
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 5:39pm

Hi scottslover,


You would not believe how amazing it was to read your letter.

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Registered: 05-29-2007
In reply to: scottslover
Sun, 10-21-2007 - 8:31pm

OMG!! Thank you so much. It is funny how things come at times when we need them the most. I think I posted that about a month ago. I have been doing exactly as

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