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No Contact countdown!
| Wed, 04-26-2006 - 12:40pm |
Well feeling pleased as its 14 days since I had NC with my ex. Ok, so it was me ringing him the last time to ask 'why we couldnt fight for our relationship' nonsense, but I think its a big achievement. Even commenting on how hard it is may offer support for those that are newly heartbroken.
So, I thought we could all do a tally of where we are at with NC, and keep it going every week. We are all strong right??!
14 DAYS! Yeh!
Edited 4/26/2006 12:41 pm ET by who_knew2006

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That is awesome, i've heard the first few weeks are the worse, so just hang in there. I am on the opposite end though, i was the one who did the breaking up with. and we've got 2 days of no contact under our belt!..I have a question though, did you have any closure, or did you just call him that one time and since then you haven't talked..? just wondering cuz with mine, we kinda talked about and he knows i don't think it will work..so i think he has the hint, but it just feels weird cuz there was no definite end, yet i think we both know that that is the case..
let me know if anyone else is in my same situation where they had to do the breaking up....and how did no contact work?
I dont think my ex knows what 'closure' is to be honest. We broke up before, under different circumstances and it still feels the same, even tho he cheated this time.
One of his faults is, he can't communicate well, and the last time we spoke, he was crying but told me I had to 'move on' but then told me to have a nice weekend. (WTF??)
He can be very patronising and childish, and to be honest I don't miss that at all. When he split with me, he didn't tell me he had an affair.. just that it wasn't working out - cowards way out, so I have been left to scrape around for an ounce or truth from him, and I only knew from finding out myself about this affair, from his mother and seeing her in my former house.
In our last conversation, when I asked if he was still seeing her, he said 'I think I might see her again'.. GAWD - what a crock. Why can't people just be honest! I am better off so much without that crap.
Anyway.. Back to NC.. where's everyone at?
GOOD JOB MY DEAR KEEP IT GOING...IF YOU THINK HE CAN CALL YOU AND HE CANNOT SWALLOW HIS PRIDE...YOU COULD DO THAT TOO...AYWAYS HIS NOT THE ONLY GUY OUT THERE. YOU JUST NEED TO OPEN YOUR EYES. YOU NEVER KNOW YOU ALREADY MET YOUR DESTINY IT JUST YOUR TOTALLY BLIND WITH YOUR EX. THATS WHY YOU DONT SEE HIM.
GOOD LUCK AND BE STRONG!!
3 weeks... But the last time was after my Grandma passed away and it was late at night. Of course he was the default person to go to. But he never picked up the phone.
Does NC count if you pass at the gym? Even if there is no talking involved? That would change my count to yesterday.
And maybe today, depending on our timing. For having similar schedules, it's a miracle that we never pass more there. He has even parked right next to my car. (granted, I got that after we broke up, so he doesn't have a clue that it's mine. He'd park elsewhere, I'm sure.)
Anyway. 3 weeks by my count! and a month and a half since the breakup. Getting easier. Sort of.
2 whole days and with some more effort on my part, hopefully it'll keep going! It is hard, especially when you work out of the same office....but thankfully, I can work from home & am currently looking for a new line of work. I know that if I don't see or hear his voice, the easier it'll be for me. I just hope that he takes the rest of his stuff out of my house soon so that'll be the last material object to remind me of him so I can keep emotionally moving on for good! Memories are just that, but looking at his belongings make it a little harder for me!
Thanks to everyone on the board again. It's nice to have a place to vent and read others stories that are similar to my own. It surely helps the recovery process in a situation like this. Take care of yourselves & I hope everyone here finds the unconditional love in a partnership that will keep everlasting smiles on our faces!
R in NJ
This is my 3rd day of no contact with my ex! I broke up with him on Friday, but I called him on Sunday and humiliated myself. He hung up on me. So I started over again on Monday and it feels good to have gone 3 days without calling him, even though I am the one that broke it off with him.
Good luck to everyone with NC!
Well, It's been about 12 days of nc (officially)
I have to say "about" since I really can't remember the exact day that I dropped off the letter. I suppose that's good, that I can't even remember!!!! yippeeee
The minus side is that I see him every few days at the gym. No speaking, but he has taken one of my gym classes (which is torture on me but getting better, now I only want him out since it distracts me too much!)
Now the official part is that I see him but we don't speak. I have been very good about that... I just wish he wouldn't give me the back turn when we are within three feet of another in the parking lot.
sigh......
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