is this normal??
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| Wed, 07-25-2007 - 9:41pm |
Hi, I just broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months a couple weeks ago. We had been having problems for a few weeks and it just seemed things were not going to work out. I initiated the break up, which I thought was the best thing for the situation and for me. I was 100% sure of it when I did it.
Now, I am second-guessing myself. I miss him and I keep thinking about his good qualities and what if we could work it out? I'm confused and sad.
What makes things worse is that I don't know how he feels - and I don't want to reach out in this critical time unless I am absolutely sure of what I want.
Is it normal to second-guess yourself after a decision like this? How do I get through this? Should I reconsider things? How do I know what to do?
-Confused & lonely

Why are you second guessing yourself now if you were 100% sure that you didn't want to continue the relationship? Is it because you feel lonely and alone? Think girl, you broke it up for a reason. You saw his defects more than his qualities and that doesn't work.
It's normal to feel sad after a break up. Even after dating for 6 months it's normal o feel sad amd miss him because at one point you saw yourself with him. For one reason or another it didn't work and you broke it up.
Feeling sad and lonely and missing him is not a good reason to "get back together" He'll be the same person he was before. Nothing has changed, only that you feel sad and miss him.
Welcome to the board blonde_one78,
Yes, it's normal. You've already gotten some good advice....you will feel lots of ups and downs at the end of a relationship.
Thank you all for your advice and reminding me that I did this for a reason. I think I just miss him and that's why I am second-guessing myself. I will try to stay strong!