Is this normal?

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Registered: 04-05-2003
Is this normal?
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Mon, 03-28-2005 - 9:09am

Things have been over about a week and a half now and surprisingly, I've been feeling pretty good. I admit I have my moments where I get down and teary-eyed and the weekends are the toughest to get through, especially with the weather getting warmer.

I'm a little concerned though that I haven't had a major cry over this and wondering if one day the other shoe will drop and I'll have a complete meltdown.

On the other hand, the indifference he'd been showing toward me for so long was really cruel. I guess it took my heart time to catch up with my head and I finally realized I didn't deserve to be treated this way anymore.

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Registered: 02-24-2005
In reply to: amytct
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 3:46pm

Amytct,

I was exactly where you are now just a few months ago. And I too felt like I was handling things "too well". A girl I work with that I've since become close to told me that I deserve an academy award because she never would've known that I was going through so much had I not told her.

Everybody reacts differently, but I imagine that just as I did, the other shoe will drop. Although...I went through so much, and still managed to believe that I was handling it very well...after I learned he was marrying a girl after only knowing her one month, and after only being out of our engagement for 2 months. I had my meltdown cry, but then once again, felt like I was handling things way too well. It comes and goes in cycles for me.

One day I feel great...on top of the world...through crying over him, then the next day I don't know what comes over me but I feel lonely, sad, I miss him, I cry, etc. And some days I just feel very numb. So I would think that you might react in quite the same way, although I still think that even through these stages I'm handling things quite well.

I have written in a journal when those times come and it helps me get through the moment to where I'm ok again. Another thing I do when I don't feel like writing is to call a friend and talk...that also helps them to see that I am going through pain, as well as I hide it from them on normal days.

I wish you well and hope that you continue to handle things so well. Take care!

~jen

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Registered: 01-30-2004
In reply to: amytct
Mon, 03-28-2005 - 9:30pm
If you haven't been happy for awhile in this relationship....you might be feeling a bit relived deep down and that could be why you never have had a big cry...you know this is for the best and you're enjoying your freedom!!
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