Not ANY better after 3 1/2 months HELP
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Not ANY better after 3 1/2 months HELP
| Sat, 03-26-2005 - 10:21am |
I am so thankful that I just found this board. My friends are so sick of listening to me.
My boyfriend broke up with me a little over 3 months ago. We were together for 3 years and lived together for 2. We were so happy. We got along great and were like 2 little love birds until the last month. He lost his job and turned into a different person. I went out of town to visit my dad. I talked to him on the phone and everything was fine. I came home that night and everything was fine. The next day, I went to work, and I came home from work and he said "I'm leaving. Do you want me to take my cat?" I was stunned. He picked up his cat and walked out the door. The next Saturday he called and said he would be over to pick up his belongings. He swore there wasn't another woman in his life. He said he decided while I was gone he didn't love me like he used to. He said he was moving to Calif. to find another job. I talked to him on the phone New Years Day. I just felt like I had to wish him Happy New Year. He was so cold on the phone. He said he wished me luck and that he still loved me but "not like he used to"
I have just been a wreck for the last 3 months. Every single thing reminds me of him. I just wish I could go through one day without thinking about him. His daughter called me and told me she misses me, and that her dad doesn't have another girlfriend,and she just doesnt' understand why we aren't together anymore. I don't understand either. I have never gone through this before . Ilost 2 husbands who died suddenly, and this is a million times more painful. They left because they died and had no choice. He left, basically never even discussed being unhappy, and snatched away my happiness in a flash.
How do you ever get over this. Everyone keeps telling me I have to grieve, but I don't have a clue how I will ever be the same. If anyone has any advice, please help me.
Thank you for listening!
My boyfriend broke up with me a little over 3 months ago. We were together for 3 years and lived together for 2. We were so happy. We got along great and were like 2 little love birds until the last month. He lost his job and turned into a different person. I went out of town to visit my dad. I talked to him on the phone and everything was fine. I came home that night and everything was fine. The next day, I went to work, and I came home from work and he said "I'm leaving. Do you want me to take my cat?" I was stunned. He picked up his cat and walked out the door. The next Saturday he called and said he would be over to pick up his belongings. He swore there wasn't another woman in his life. He said he decided while I was gone he didn't love me like he used to. He said he was moving to Calif. to find another job. I talked to him on the phone New Years Day. I just felt like I had to wish him Happy New Year. He was so cold on the phone. He said he wished me luck and that he still loved me but "not like he used to"
I have just been a wreck for the last 3 months. Every single thing reminds me of him. I just wish I could go through one day without thinking about him. His daughter called me and told me she misses me, and that her dad doesn't have another girlfriend,and she just doesnt' understand why we aren't together anymore. I don't understand either. I have never gone through this before . Ilost 2 husbands who died suddenly, and this is a million times more painful. They left because they died and had no choice. He left, basically never even discussed being unhappy, and snatched away my happiness in a flash.
How do you ever get over this. Everyone keeps telling me I have to grieve, but I don't have a clue how I will ever be the same. If anyone has any advice, please help me.
Thank you for listening!

daisylou822..
An indefinite period of mourning will only make you feel lousier than you already do!
Thank you, that is a very good idea. I did put away all the pictures of him right away. I even threw away a little angel he bought me. ( I collect angels) I think buying something new for the house is a very good idea.
I live in a really small town, so that's why it's so easy to go everywhere where we went. I just try to keep telling myslelf "that's in the past, it's time to move on" I don't know what else to do. Today I went to the library and took out some self help books. Reading this board has been very helpful too. Thanks again.