Not ready vs not wanting to move on
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| Fri, 05-04-2007 - 9:34am |
Tomorrow will be NC for 30 days. I've gone through just about every emotion except happiness about it. In the 2 1/2 months that we've been broken up I applied for 3 jobs. While we were together I was looking for a new job because I hate the management at mine. When we were engaged I stopped looking because I was going to move to be with him in a little over a year. When we broke up I started looking again. I was offered 2 jobs. 1 that was an amazing offer, great pay, in a really, really terrible area where there are more registered sex offenders than college educated people. The other was in a great city, decent pay, and a pretty good job. I chose the position in the great city because the way I feel I need to do something rather than sit by myself with the cows admiring my new Jimmy Choo's that I have nowhere to wear. I quit my horrible job and started telling people I work with that I'm leaving and all of them are so happy for me and many of them who know my situation are saying things like "think of the boys!" "You're going to meet someone great" " better watch out" "my friend/relative lives there, he's so cute and a really nice, great guy, I'll introduce you" etc, etc, etc.
I appreciate the offer and am looking forward to meeting new people and having new friends. I am not, however, interested in a new BF.
Which brings me to my question:
How do you know when you are not ready to move on or not willing/wanting to move on?

Sun14,
This is a new adventure for you. Think of the fresh start, the new challenge at work, and just focus on adjusting to your new city. You don't have to date anyone the moment you get there. Just enjoy the flow of this change and when you are ready to date again you will know it.