Not sure what I should be thinking..
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| Thu, 01-04-2007 - 11:45am |
Hey guys, I am new to the boards...your advice is much appreciated.
My ex and I were together for about 1.5 years...I recently broke up with him because we were fighting constantly...I did my share of bad things, he did his share..the point is, it wasn't working out. While in the relationship there were so many times I just wanted 'out' and I couldn't stand him, but at the same time we both constantly talked about spending our lives together. When we first met, he fell head over heels for me, and he is also a few years older than I am, and has never entertained the idea of marriage before I came along. We are taking space now, but he is at a point where he wants all or nothing pretty much. If we get back together, he wants a solid commitment along with marriage in the future.
I guess the real issue is that since we've taken space I've missed him terribly and I am at the point where I feel like no one can love me or know me like he does, is he a very intense person and I don't think I've ever been in a relationship with someone quite like him, so a part of me feels that if I let go of this opportunity I will be making a big mistake. However, another part of me feels like the reason I am feeling sad etc. is just because of the the distance, there obviously have been times where I wanted out of the relationship, so why so I feel like running back now, especially if I was the one who ended it?

Fear.
You're afraid that if you let him go, you may never have another relationship.
Cutiekitty has a point about taking time to figure out what you really want. Also, I would suggest dating a couple of guys to see if you are able to have feelings for someone else or if all you do is wish you were with your ex. If you find that you still miss him then call him up and see if he is willing to give it another shot.
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Carrie
Carrie