Nothing matters anymore

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Nothing matters anymore
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Wed, 03-01-2006 - 10:53am
Nothing matters anymore but the pain. I just can't think, sleep, eat. People talk to me but it's as if don't hear anything. I would opt for physical pain over this any day. Please tell me it gets better...I can't see that right now and it's killing me.
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Registered: 09-14-2004
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:25am

::hugs::

I'm sorry to hear you're in so much pain right now...

I know how difficult it can be to see the light at the end of the tunnel, especially right in the beginning. Just keep posting/venting, cry, eat some good food, listen to music, watch movies, keep yourself busy with work/school, spend time with your friends/family.

It's tough, but it DOES get better. Please believe that. When my ex and I first broke up, I was a complete wreck. I truly thought it was the end of the world...I cried myself to sleep for many nights. But I'm *much* better now and can even look back at that time in my life and laugh--it was definitely NOT the end of the world! Eventually the pain passes through you. I don't know what else to say--that's pretty much all you need to remember. It gets easier, it really does.

Good luck.

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Registered: 09-22-2005
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:31am

I'm sorry you are not feeling good about things right now.

Nikki
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Registered: 10-22-2004
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 11:47am

I know right now you feel nothing matters anymore, and in time, those thoughts will change, I promise!!! All you need is time, and right now, it's not on your side. You have to go thru this emotinonal and painful event, in order to get to the next level. People go thru different stages at their own pace, and your going thru your stuff, at your own pace. It doesn't make sense right now, because it hurts so bad, and girl, I know what your going thru. It really hurts, and you don't think your never going to get thru it, and your just messed up all over. I know, and I've been there. It took some time, and I mean some time, to get to where I am today. But, I do remember the heartache like it happened yesterday. I can't forget it. It is a permanent scar on my heart, but it's healing, and I finally see a light at the end of the tunnel. It took time to see it, but I do see it.

I don't wish this pain on my worst enemy, because the way it hurts. But I can promise you, it will get better. You don't see it, but I can see it for you. If you can, write in a journal. It helped me, and even though I'm better, I still write, just to keep a reminder of how my past year of heartache began, and how it has evolved. If you have to cry every day, then you do that. Don't stop your tears, you need to cleanse the pain. I still cry sometimes, and it has been one full year for me. The pain stems from the memory of how I was so sad and heart broken, and how bad I got hurt. But I learned so much from my ordeal, that I'm such a different woman, than I was one year ago. So going thru my pain, changed me dramatically, and it has made me a better person. I started to understand why my relationship didn't work, and why I met my guy, who I will always care for, even when I'm in love again, and married. He changed my life, for the best, and I thank him. He will never now how he changed me, and he doesn't need to know. It's for me, and me alone. Keep us posted on how your doing. You need several support systems to get thru this pain. But going thru the pain alone, is more intense and meaningful. You don't understand now, but you will. Get on your hands and knees, and cry, and ask God to help you. He will, I promise you, he will take it away from you. But it won't happen as quickly as you would like, but in his time, he will take it away from you. I wish you the best, and I'm sorry for your pain. I understand it, 100%!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-09-2006
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 12:58pm
I was right where you are a month ago. Everyday you have to tell yourself that you are worth more, because you are. You have to start believing it too. Imagine you feeling like you wanna die when he is somewhere living life to the fullest. Its not fair to you and you need to see that for yourself. Its up to you to break out of it. If he's not missing you, then try as hard as you can to not miss him too. You can do it, I promise and yes it does get better with time. First you have to accept that its over and keep the memories but bury the pain. Whatever you can do the bury the pain. Think of all the women who have been there before. Like celebrities...Mary J Blige if you know her story and Janet Jackson too. They seemed to have it all but they were in abusive relationships that made them feel less than who they were. Hope this helps.
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Registered: 09-29-2005
Wed, 03-01-2006 - 4:32pm
I PROMISE this too shall pass. Stay close to those who love you, pray, meditate and do whatever you need to do to heal. Get a massage if you need touch, change of latitude is changing the attitude: take a trip. Stay out of the bed aside from night time. You will heal...we all have been there..believe me...