Nothing was wrong, how do I move on?
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| Mon, 04-23-2007 - 8:01am |
I was dumped a week ago by the man I was going to spend the rest of my life with. We had been together for almost two years, we owned a home together for the last year and we were engaged for the past 3 1/2 months. I noticed he seemed kind of distant the last couple weeks, not as touchy feely and I thought he was stressed at work or something. I emailed him at work to see if things were okay and when I came home that night he had already packed a bag and told me he loved me but wasn't in love with me anymore. He said that something didn't feel right to him about us and he had been fighting it for awhile. I begged for us to work on it, our relationship has been in a rut lately that is normal but he said we could get the spark back but he is afraid this feeling of us not being right will come back again and it will be harder to end things then. I'm devastated, we had the relationship that all our friends wanted. We never fought, we had disagreements sometimes but we always talked them out. He spent the fall in Iraq as a contractor and the three months we were apart we constantly made sure to keep our love strong and when he got back he proposed and we went to Paris. I guess it doesn't matter everything we did what matters is how do I suddenly get over a man I'm hopelessly in love with? I don't have anything bad to focus on to say yeah he's right we weren't meant to be. I just suddenly have to get over my feelings and move on and I have no idea how to do that. I hurt so badly right now and I would do anything to make us work, I love him so much. I don't want to move on but I know I have to, I just don't know how.
photogirl

dear bwphotogirl, reading your post has really struck a chord with me. i recently had was in a similar situation. my bf of 5 yrs also said the same things and left. i did the exact same thing, with the same result, he didn't want to work on it, that it was his decision to work on it if he wanted to.
things seem completely uncontrollable right now and your emotions are high, but you will get through this. the best thing to do is No Contact. it will give you time to adjust to the change. I'm just on day 10 myself, and each day is difficult, but it gets a tiny smidge better each day.
read the boards, post messages, we are here for you!
(((hugs)))