Now what?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2007
Now what?
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Wed, 12-05-2007 - 2:56pm

This might be a confusing thread mainly because I am very confused about everything.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-26-2007
In reply to: ivil_blue
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 5:03pm

Hi Ivil,


I'm not sure how much help I will be here, but it sounds like to me that when you speak to your ex and he tells you that he is there for you, makes you feel better, or it sounds like he will be there for you; it makes you feel better and perhaps deep down inside there is still a glimmer of hope that you will get back together.


My two cents would say to break contact with him completely for longer than a few months. 5 years is tough to get over, it's tough to recover in others what you had in one consistent place. After a few years with someone, that person learns you, they know what makes you feel better, what makes you tick, what makes you laugh, what not to say, etc.....


Dont worry though, you will find that in others, more likely collectively as a group, not so much everything from one person. Also, avoid being lonely. If your best friend is moving, I would encourage you to list out 5 activities you love doing and researching for groups that share that activity in your area and join those groups. That would take up a lot of time and before you know it, the thoughts wont run through your head anymore.


Good luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: ivil_blue
Wed, 12-05-2007 - 6:24pm

:: I have gone back to being NC for the time being and I’m going to see a counselor but I don’t know

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-13-2007
In reply to: ivil_blue
Thu, 12-06-2007 - 10:22am

I've already done a lot of that but still I keep holding back.