An observation about some singles

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2006
An observation about some singles
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Thu, 12-14-2006 - 3:15pm

Have any of you known people in your life that broke up with someone or got divorced or whatever and almost immediately after the end of the previous relationship they are either engaged or in a LTR? I have known a lot of people like this, but I can honestly say this has NEVER happend to me. I ended my last LTR 2 years ago. He married the next girl he dated less than a year after we ended. Several people in my office have divorced and a couple have had spouses die. They were all married or engaged within a year. I have two friends that met their current husbands before their divorce was final from their first husbands. Am I missing something? Sorry just venting!

YG

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 3:26pm
Yes! I have known a lot of people like this. I have had friends who barely let the ink dry on the divorce papers before marrying someone else. And I have had a number of boyfriends who married the next girl they dated after me. I always wondered if I was so bad that the next girl looked really good or if being with me made them want marriage. No, it never happens to me, either. I usually go a long time in between relationships and then get in one and spend forever trying to decide if I should stay in it or leave.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-05-2006
Thu, 12-14-2006 - 5:11pm
You are not missing anything and Yes, I have seen way too much of this and my dad is a prime example. The dude has been married 6 times and married very quickly after his divorces. His third wife was killed and he was married 4 months later. Now that he is 62 and single, he is just realizing that marriage is not for him and has been single for 2 years (shocker). I look at it this way, people who jump from one relationship to the next, and it is mostly men, they are very insecure people who are not happy within themselves and have to be with someone to make them feel happy. I really feel sorry for people like this and thankful I am not one of those. After my divorce 3 years ago, I spent a year and half concentrating on me and my daughter before dating and glad I did even though my ex-husband was with someone a month after the divorce was final. The satisfaction I get from that is that I am happy, single and secure and he is miserable with his psycho girlfriend.