oh man update on my sad story...help!
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| Mon, 02-12-2007 - 4:18pm |
read what i posted before to understand this one!
ok new update on the situation...last night he came into work totally unsuspectingly for no reason...he said he was bored so he just came down ther...uhh ok...all he was doing was following me slyly around while i was seating people and such....then i get a phone call an hour after i left work and its my best freind co worker who said that he texted her and asked her to go get coffee sometime...um WOAH you do not do that he had better have an explanation...so she called me being the friend she is (btw she thinks hes a sleeze) and we figured out that he got the number from the employee registry ...whihch is umm how you say a little desperate...so to make a long story short i came up in there texting conversation and she had him text me...and all he says is "are you upset"...ummm YES!!!!!!!!!!! duh im upset boys are so clueless...so i text him back saying like yeah i am and list reasons upon reasons why...and after us texting back and forth for a while he sends me this which kind of made me feel for him and know that i did and still do mean something to him...he said that he didnt know what to do and that he didint want to hurt me because he had just gotten out of a relationship and didint want to be in that situation again ( i didnt get what he meant by situation but if anyone can tell me ...thanks) he says he wont be with me because he doesnt want ot hurt me down the road...how does he know hell hurt me..and if he knows and is telling me it shows he cares enough to tell me this to make me feel better...so here is what i have come to the conclusion of... my boss and older co workers saw us gettign close and since the whole buisness is like my exteneded family they wanted to stop it before anything else started to happen...because he has fooled around and messed up with alot of the girls before me and he has not been a good kid... they wanted to end it before anything could start...but he realy did feel different about me ...i mean before we got involved he knew i was like family to the restraunt and that i was still a virgin and i wasnt easy... but he still wanted me ...and he told me things that people that i told didint believe he said to me... so they told him that he would loose his job only because that was the only thing that would keep him from rebelling against them to be with me...even if they made it up.. and now i hope and think he still likes me but knows he cant have me even if i wanted him because of his mom and people...which sucks so much...i mena there trying to look ouit for me...well anyway last night instead of him just brushing everything off he texted me ot make sure i was alright and was really concerned with not hurting me...so i think he still has feelings for me but is trying to tell himself he cant...exactly how i feel... why do guys deal differently with there problems and do you think he still likes me even through everything that happened... this wed.... valentines day were working together annd i was thinking of giving him a note not of like love or hatejust telling him what i am thinking and how i feel about everything...is that weird...ah i am so confused!!!! HELP!

Here's greeneyedgrl's previous post:
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22112.1&ctx=0
greeneyedgrl - I want you to try to separate what you feel from what you really know... meaning don't dismiss these things:
::he texted her and asked her to go get coffee sometime
::he said that he didnt know what to do and that he didint want to hurt me because he had just gotten out of a relationship and didint want to be in that situation again
Hmm, didn't want to be back in another relationship so quickly? Didn't want to hurt another girl (you)?
If this guy does have a history of bad relationships and break-ups with girls then you do want to steer clear of him. It will only drive you crazy. Believe me - I have been in that situation before. My ex also used to go on about he felt like he was hurting me or he will hurt me which is something I never understood either because the answer was always simple. Then don't hurt me!!! In my opinion that is an excuse as to why he will ignore you at times and then play with your heart later because he knows he can. Don't get yourself into that kind of mindgame. You will be the only one hurt.
I wouldn't send him a note or anything. Just let it be. If you give him a note about your feelings, it might come off as being desperate. And, don't forget, he did go after your girlfriend which contradicts everything else he told you so I really don't think the guy is good news. You deserve a lot better. And it's out there waiting to be found.
He's already told you he will hurt you (not might, WILL) and he's already contradicted himself by saying one thing (doesn't want relationship) but yet asking your friend out.