Well, chica, as soon as you said the second you let the emotions bubble up autonomously and got in the moment doing the touch-breathe exercise and you said the first thing that came up was your folks, it was pretty obvious what was going on.
Quit thinking everything is about space. It's not. I guess I have to be much more direct, but I was kind of hoping you'd come to that conclusion yourself and take the hint from your boyfriend about "hey call every few days," and get that he might not have been *able* to call as opposed to not *wanting* to call because it's really important that you learn to gauge your own gut instinct on what is and what is not going on in your relationship. It'll help keep you from making yourself batty ;)
You know, soemone might get the idea to take someone some chicken soup, I don't know who, but someone...
It's also really important for you to get out of your head and into your feelings about all this, which is why now I'm going to tell you you probably need to do that little touch-breathe exercise several times a day, you need to start being aware of where you "are" in your life. I think "abandonment" isn't the only thing you've been glossing over, you know?
Our feelings don't go away just because we choose to ignore them. They remain hidden, but they remain until they're dealt with. Sometimes, like in your case here, what'll happen is that they'll find an outlet at the most inconvenient time and in the most inconvenient fashion, they'll get transferred to something else, but they're going to get out so they're dealt with. Feelings demand attention, and they're going to get that somehow no matter what it costs the person carrying them around. Sounds weird to talk about feelings as their own entities, but they can make your day, or they can mess up your world. Which do you prefer?
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Well, chica, as soon as you said the second you let the emotions bubble up autonomously and got in the moment doing the touch-breathe exercise and you said the first thing that came up was your folks, it was pretty obvious what was going on.
Quit thinking everything is about space. It's not. I guess I have to be much more direct, but I was kind of hoping you'd come to that conclusion yourself and take the hint from your boyfriend about "hey call every few days," and get that he might not have been *able* to call as opposed to not *wanting* to call because it's really important that you learn to gauge your own gut instinct on what is and what is not going on in your relationship. It'll help keep you from making yourself batty ;)
You know, soemone might get the idea to take someone some chicken soup, I don't know who, but someone...
It's also really important for you to get out of your head and into your feelings about all this, which is why now I'm going to tell you you probably need to do that little touch-breathe exercise several times a day, you need to start being aware of where you "are" in your life. I think "abandonment" isn't the only thing you've been glossing over, you know?
Our feelings don't go away just because we choose to ignore them. They remain hidden, but they remain until they're dealt with. Sometimes, like in your case here, what'll happen is that they'll find an outlet at the most inconvenient time and in the most inconvenient fashion, they'll get transferred to something else, but they're going to get out so they're dealt with. Feelings demand attention, and they're going to get that somehow no matter what it costs the person carrying them around. Sounds weird to talk about feelings as their own entities, but they can make your day, or they can mess up your world. Which do you prefer?
Good luck,
Yes, sometimes I need things spelled out directly! :)
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